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EP 95: The Lucky Potion Mindset: How to Believe Everything Is Fine!

• daniella dawkins • Season 3 • Episode 95

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What if you could trick your mind into peace the same way you trick it into stress? In this episode, I’m breaking down how to feel okay before things actually are okay — and why that shift changes everything.

I share a story about Harry Potter’s “lucky potion,” and how Ron smashed the game not because of the potion… but because he believed he had it. That’s the energy I want you to have this week. Whether it’s your bills, your job, or your own self-doubt — you’ve got the power to flip your mindset, regulate your body, and believe it’s already handled.

We’re talking:

  • Mindset tricks that actually work
  • The science of believing before you see it
  • How to stop letting stress run the show
  • Turning setbacks into setups
  • And why you are the lucky potion

If nobody’s told you lately — you’re fucking amazing. Now act like it. 

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Hypothetically, of course, what would you do? What would you say? If I came to you and I said, What would you do if and then I gave you a scenario of I don't know, we're out and an altercation happens and someone's all up in your face and they're saying shit and you gotta back it, you gotta defend yourself, yeah. And I say, What would you do? You know, when you as kids, you'd be like, What would you do if? Would you would you rather? And you and you put yourself in that situation. So you put yourself in that situation, and you feel the feelings that would come in that situation. So usually the you you start imagining it, and the face turns, like the frown comes, the eyebrows, like eyebrow, and then you're like, mmm, the posture changes, like, because then now you gotta back it, isn't it? Like, so what? And now we're in altercation, in an imaginary altercation, because I've told you imagine and you've imagined it, right? So what if I said imagine everything was okay. Imagine how it would feel like if everything was okay. The bills that are billing, everything is okay. The bills are paid, they're fine. There's no debt, there's nothing to stress about. The kids, everything is paid, everything is fine. My kids are healthy, they are thriving, everything is okay. The gym membership, the gym membership is fine. Hey, you don't even go to that gym anymore. You go to a better gym. If you know, you know. Everything is fine, everything is okay. You are okay, you are amazing, you are thriving. There is nothing to stress about the car, everything is fine. It what is working fine. Do you know what? You don't even need that car anymore. You got a new car, everything is fine, everything is fine. How does that feel in your body? The same reaction that we had when we was ready to back it for ourselves. The posture changing, the annoyance in the face. If you can see me now, you would I'm doing it. But everything is fine. The softness that comes with that, knowing that everything is fine. We can trick our bodies into thinking that we gotta back it and we gotta back ourselves, and we're about to they I'm about to throw some fists, I don't even fight, but listen to everything is fine. I can trick my body into feeling that. So, what would you rather do? Stress or believe that everything is fine if it if all it takes is a belief and a feeling and the words, what would you rather do? Anyway, let's start this episode. Hi guys, welcome to another episode of the So Flippin' Extra podcast, a platform for me to express, explore, and connect and be so flipping extra. Why are here you guys arts? Well, baby, that's what brings me joy. So, without further ado, let's get into this episode and let's let's feel let's fill all the fills. Okay, guys, so if you've gone looking for the video this week, there is no video. I had to show up. I had to show up because I promised you a lot, and I more importantly, I promised myself that I was gonna show up every week, and yeah, I have missed a few weeks, especially since this third season has started because a lot of things have been happening. Your baby girl's been busy. Come on, birthday came, events are coming in, I'm booked, I'm busy, I want to be more booked and busy. It's all good, but today I thought I don't have time to set up the camera, do all the bits, and show up. But I really, really, really want to talk because that's my love language, that's my joy, that's what I get off on. It's talking, it's feeling like I'm giving something, it's having a message and sharing it with you guys. And I heard this today, I heard this video today, and it was talking about the feeling, it was talking about tricking the mind where energy goes, that's where it flows, or where the mind goes, energy flows. You know the saying, I know you know it because we're all about it around here, and I had to share that today because I've spent last week, I spent a lot of time last week. When I say a lot, one day too, one day is too much, overthinking about the situation that was situated in my mind, and my body felt it, I felt it, and I definitely believe I I know my body reacts to the outside world when I when I internalize it. If you guys know of the abscess that I that I got a couple years ago, I have to see it every single day. It is a reminder, every day I'm reminded it is not worth it, it is not worth your stress, it is not worth your energy. You see that scar on my chest? That came out of nowhere, and by nowhere, it came from stress, but it just popped up, and I thought I was gonna die. Yeah, I'm dramatic, but I honestly thought I was gonna die. But it is my reminder, it's not worth the stress, and I love that scar. I love it because I think scars are really quite sexy anyway, they're always a talking point, and um whatever. Sorry, don't my mind went. Sorry, my mind went, guys. You know, I'm like, but it's it's yeah, it's a it's it really is my reminder of it's not worth your stress, baby. You're better than that, you're bigger than that, and everything is okay. And yeah, the video that I saw today, I will post it on my stories. I'll re I'll reshare it. Was it on my story? No, it was actually on TikTok, but I will share it on Insta with the link. So if you want, you can go watch it, and just yeah, this the story that the gentleman told within this video as well, it was quite a long video, and he spoke about in Harry Potter when and I'm not gonna know the name, so if you know this know Harry Potter, you know it in it. When Harry, his friend has a game, like this game slightly hockey, but it's air hockey, in it, because they're flying on dragons and shit, and he's worried before the game because he's like, I can't do this, I can't do it. And Harry has access to this potion. How how Harry got access to the potion is also in this story, but whatever. And so Harry tells this potion just makes you confident, it gives you confident you can do whatever. It's like lucky potion. So he tells Ron, that's his name. He tells Ron, I'm gonna give you some, I'm gonna show you my lucky potion with you. So he gives Ron this lucky potion. Ron plays the best game. Ron wins the game, he's man of the match after the game. They're celebrating. Ron has hosts the pie at his house. He's confident, his whole face changes, he his whole stance changes. The girls are on Ron because the confidence is confidence. Listen, Ron was the man, and then Harry's all happy. Harry's in the background, like, look at my boy, that's my boy, yeah? That's my guy. Come on, we do this. And Hermani, I think her name is. Her and Harry have a little convo up on the side. And Harry, sneaky little shit, he takes out the little luck potion. Harry didn't give Ron the lucky potion. Harry told Ron he gave him the lucky potion. That's all Harry needed. All he needed did, all he needed did, yeah, I said it. All he needed was to know he had a bit of that luck. And he felt that luck. And he didn't have shit. It was mental. We gotta trick ourselves into believing it's all okay. It's okay. I'm lucky, I'm confident, everything is okay, everything is gonna work out, but you have to believe it. You have to believe it. Every day wake up and that water that you have in the morning, or that coffee, or that tea, or whatever it is that you consume in the morning, that first thing. And if you have nothing, hey, let's start having something, in it, and as you're drinking that, tell yourself, my lucky potion, this is my lucky potion because everything is okay, and everything is gonna be okay, and it's okay, and I am confident whatever it is that you need, because we all need something, whatever it is that you need to hear in the morning to know that your day is gonna be fucking amazing, that's what you tell yourself. And as you're drinking your drink, and maybe you ain't drinking your drink, maybe it's while you're brushing your teeth, maybe it's while you're washing your face and you're just giving yourself all the energy that you need, you're giving yourself all the praise and all the affirmations in that moment that you need to tell yourself and trick your mind and trick your body into believing that it is all okay. That's what you need to do, and that's what I'm doing. I'm starting that this week. Like, luckily, I was able to get off last week. I spent, like I said, maybe two, three days, and then I got to Wednesday and I said, uh-uh, are you fucking serious? Nah, I'm not doing this no more. Thursday I woke up and I was ready. Boom, let's go. Friday I got another blow. But because I'd already told myself in the morning, everything is okay. And this is before I even heard this story. Everything is everything is okay, everything is great. I'm gonna get good news today, and that's why I had to tell myself. I'd done a video, I don't think I've posted it actually on on Instagram yet, but it's posted on TikTok, and in this video, I was saying that sometimes things happen to us, and this is based on what happened on Friday. Sometimes things happen, and we internalize it as in something negative that's happened. Oh man, I can't believe that happened. Oh, what am I gonna do? But I woke up on Friday morning and I said to myself, today is gonna be a good day. Something amazing is gonna happen today. I'm gonna get some good news, I'm gonna get some good stories, um, some good phone calls, something amazing is gonna happen. And within less than an hour, that happened. And initially I thought that was bad. I can't believe they done that to me. Well, why? It's not about me. It's not about me. People are gonna do what they're gonna do for their own reasons, but then the next day I thought, hang on a second, I told myself something good was gonna happen. That was the good thing. That was a good thing. I've been able to turn it around and be like, you know what? Fuck you. That was a good thing. That was a good thing, it's okay, it's okay, and you know what? Not only is it okay, it's actually now gonna be even better. Sometimes the blockage that comes forces you to do even more, it forces you to go another route, and on that route to something else, or on that route, sorry, on that route to re-find, to re find your journey or on this on the path, you end up meeting different things, you end up meeting different obstacles, and not all obstacles are bad. Obstacles will train you, they'll make you fitter, they'll make you stronger, they'll grow your mind. So, because now I've got this blockage that is stopping me from doing this particular thing, I've got to go another route, and I don't know what that route has in store for me. And you know what? That is exciting. I'm excited by the opportunities that I'm gonna meet on this new route because I know it's gonna strengthen me, it's gonna make me stronger. Hey, I actually think it's gonna make me richer. I actually honestly think it's gonna make me even richer. And rich in work, rich in finances, rich in information, rich in knowledge, rich in power, rich in mindfulness. I honestly think it's gonna make me richer. I can't be mad at that. I can't be mad at that. That blockage has that was it was that was the good thing. So what we need to do is not always see everything that feels like a negative at the beginning stay as a negative. I'm not saying as soon as something happened, be like, it's okay, it's okay, no, it's okay. Sometimes sit with it, sit with it, talk about it. But I always say this, guys, be mindful who you're talking to. Not everyone you can share your your feelings of sadness with. Because not everyone's equipped to pull you out of that feeling and emotion. Know who you're trying, know who you're talking to, know who you're chatting your business to, know who is gonna make you feel better, know who's gonna sit with you for a second and be like, bitch, okay, right, right. Listen, this is what we're gonna do. This is the plan. This is how we're moving now. Know who you're chatting your business to. But oh, I forgot what I was saying, but I know you guys got it. I know you guys got everything I was saying. So, yeah, not every obstacle is a negative. So just try just sit with it for a second if you have to, and see the positive that can come from the change. Nothing changes if you don't change. With that said, your baby girls literally about to get ready. I've got an event today. So last week I had the oh my gosh! I was supposed to do a wrap-up of the fashion show um on my podcast. Last week I had the fashion show, Sustainable Fashion Week Crystal Palace. Last year I walked in the Crystal Palace show as one of the models for John and Nicole, and to today, this year I had my own section. I had six models, and Callie was one of them. It was absolutely amazing, and the the collection was called Denim Eras, and it was absolutely amazing. I loved it, I absolutely loved it, and I know I am always back and forth, I feel like I'm always back and forth. Maybe you lot don't see that with what I'm doing with my fashion. I don't want to be a designer. I don't necessarily want to do fashion shows, but I want to do fashion shows because they're fun. I want to do things that I just I mean, I love walking a catwalk. I love being up front and centre in a camera. Um, this is why I couldn't do photography. I've done photography for a bit, and then I was like, I'm taking pictures of people. I'm like, I want to be behind the camera. So I don't know, maybe doing the fashion show allows me to do that. But because I do have so many pieces, it was great, it was great to be able to put on a fashion show and not actually have to do too much because I already have things that I've been doing. I've been doing the work, but obviously, my my love and my desire and my goals is to do the presenting, presenting, speaking, hosting, all of that stuff. So it's really great because I feel like this is October's giving it. October's giving as fast as it's going, it's giving. So last week was the fashion show. Um, this week is this weekend. I am hosting the panel talk for Sustainable Fashion Week, Crystal Palace. So I will be getting ready for that in a little while and going down there today. Next week, I'm hosting the inspiration stage at the Home Life and You show. I've been going on about it for weeks, guys. Don't act like you don't know, go get your tickets. I'm hosting for the 18th and 19th on the inspiration stage. I absolutely can't wait. Usually, so before I the last two years I've done the extra stage and I've I've just you know done interviews all week on the all weekend on the stage. And this week I'm just kind of chairing, I'm hosting the stage, but I'm chairing a couple of conversations, but I'm just gonna be the hype girl. I'm gonna be the home life and you hype girl. I'm gonna be going around, I'm gonna have my extra mic, I'm gonna be talking to people, and I'm gonna be finding out what people love. So if you guys have any questions that you want to know from the show, let me know. And I'll ask, I'll ask the audience, I'll ask the people that are down there, but I'm absolutely excited about that. So that's two days, and then the weekend after that, the last weekend of October, I am hosting a workshop. I can't remember the name of the event, so I will get that for next week and let you guys know. Um, so we can do, I think I've got uh they're gonna get me to sell tickets and stuff. So tickets will be on sale, ASAP, and yeah, I'm really excited. October is giving this month, and so for the rest of the year, I I'm gonna put a lot of focus into building my presenting, figuring out, figuring that out because I actually just don't know what what I'm doing, and this I feel like I'm waiting, I'm waiting for something to happen, I'm waiting for someone to be like, hey Dan, will you present this? And it's like there's opportunities out there, there's opportunities out there. Go find your opportunity, stop waiting. You built you've built all of this by yourself, by the way. You've built your platform, you started doing the So Flippin' Extra Live show to build your platform as a presenter. Then Lives Went Dead as we went back into the real world. Weren't no one sitting at home on their phone. Lives Went Dead, cool. But you you done you built it by then, you built the platform, the platform's there. You built the presenter, everyone knew what you were doing, everyone knew that you were speaking, everyone knew you had a voice, and then you built the podcast so you could continue talking. Keep it up, babes. Sorry, that's sorry, that was a moment between me and me. But if it resonated with you, I hope you felt it. Um, and that's it. So that's a few things coming up. So the main next thing coming up for you guys to go and get tickets for because you guys like to act like I didn't say shit, and I'll be saying it, but the algorithm ain't algorithming towards you because you ain't engaging. Start engaging so you start seeing my shit when it pops off, right? We've got the home life and news show 18th and 19th, and then the weekend after, which I believe is the 26th of October, Sunday, the 26th of October. I'm gonna be having a workshop, it's gonna be in London. Um, I know it's in 11 till one, but I just need to get the name. But stay stay engaging so you see when I post about it. So that I come across a bit aggressive. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, you know, I don't have an aggressive bone in my body, but yeah, but that's all this week, guys. The message that I said at the beginning, that's the message of the week. Trick it, trick it, trick your mind and trick your body into knowing that everything is okay and everything is gonna be okay. And if ain't nobody told you, Danny Dawks told you, you're fucking amazing. Do you know that? Listen, and if you ain't, you ain't. This this message ain't for everybody, but you you just smiling right now, you that needed to hear this, and you're like, Is he talking to me? Yes, sir, I'm talking to you. You're fucking amazing. Keep it up, keep up the good work. You're loved, you're adored, you're admired. Not because you don't hear it every day, don't think it ain't true, but more importantly, you know it's true, and if ain't no one told you, tell your bloody self, I'm fucking amazing. Peace out, A Town Down. West side is the best side. Do I believe that? Not really. But what I do believe is that wherever I'm at, the vibes at the vibes here every week. If I miss a week, allow me in it. I'm a human, I'm only human, baby. Is that the words? I don't know. I love you guys. Bye.