EP 85: Booked, Busy, and Nuff: Why Extra Is My Superpower!

How would you feel if someone gave you a gift that had your name written all over it... and you never used it?
That’s what too many of us are doing with our talents.

This week, I’m talking about the power of using your gift, the pressure to shrink, and why being called “your little nuff friend” only added fuel to my fire.

From packed workshops to late-night hosting gigs, I’m sharing what it really looks like to be booked, busy, and unapologetically extra.

We’re covering:

• Why your gift isn’t for decoration — it’s for use
• How I flipped a “nuff” comment into pure motivation
• The link between confidence, criticism, and calling
• What it means to judge people with your spirit, not your eyes
• And how to serve the people who are ready for your energy

This episode is part affirmation, part therapy, and fully YOUR permission slip to stop waiting and start doing.

Chapters

• 0:00 The Parable of Unused Gifts
• 3:29 Podcast Introduction and Weekend Recap
• 8:55 Embracing All My Dreams and Skills
• 11:35 Discovering I Have Haters
• 15:09 Choosing Joy Over Others' Opinions
• 17:20 Judge People With Your Spirit

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

How would you feel if someone bought you a gift, a gift that just was so for you? It was so you. It just made sense. It encompassed is that the right word? Encompassed? Encompassed, whatever it just was. Everything about you made sense and the person that gave you the gift saw that and they were like I'm going to give this person this gift because this is just got their name written all over it. And you was like, oh my god, this is just the gift. I wanted this. I love this. I love doing this. This makes me feel good. Thank you so much for this gift.

Speaker 1: 0:36

And then you put the gift on the shelf. You didn't use the gift, you just left it there. It was gathering dust and the person that gave you the gift, they were checking everything off from like how's it going? But oh my god, yeah, I'm gonna use the gift. I'm gonna use that gift. I can't wait to use it. I'm gonna use it when this happens. I'm gonna use it when I get this. I'm gonna use it. Like you was adding more, like I've got the gift, but I can only use the gift when this thing happens and the person's like, okay, cool, they come back again. How's the gift going I haven't used it yet, but I'm gonna use it. And or you know like I'm really excited to use it, but I just need to do this before I can use the gift. And so then one day the person comes and you know they're like they're not using the gift, but this is such a great gift, so I'm gonna re-gift it.

Speaker 1: 1:23

A bad mind because they took it. They took the gift back. They didn't ask, they just took it back and they gave it to someone else. And then you now had to watch someone else using that gift that was for you. You're like. And then you're standing there thinking I can do that. That was my gift. They took it away from me and they gave it to someone else. That's life. That's life. I don't know what you believe in. Everyone believes in different things, but we're going to use God today. Not use, that sounds really bad, but we're going to talk in the language of God. God will give you a gift at some point in life.

Speaker 1: 2:02

Some people are born with their gift, born geniuses, but we get a gift. Sometimes we recognize our gifts when we're young and we're nurtured into our gifts even more, because maybe the people around us and our families help us nurture our gifts, and sometimes your gift comes when you're older and you become an older person, and then your gift comes to you. It finds you and you're like, wow, this is it, this is what I want to do, this is my gift. I'm gifted, this is what comes naturally to me and you don't use the gift the way you should be using the gift, and then the gift gets taken away from you. How would you feel, like, honestly, how would you feel you have to use the gift?

Speaker 1: 2:43

The gift has been given to you because it's for you. It's everything about you. Use the gift that's been given to you, do the things that feel good and stop waiting. Stop waiting for the right time to use the gift. That is everything about you, because there are people out here waiting to receive your gift. They're going to learn from your gift. They're going to grow from your gift. They're going to grow from you showcasing your gift and when you're holding on to it, no one's benefiting. Because you're not benefiting, it doesn't feel good. When you've got something and you just want to share it with the world and you're not doing it, it doesn't feel good. But also there's all these people that you want to help. You know you want to help them. You know you want to do something for them. You know you want to make them feel good. You know you want to make them feel seen. You know you want to make them feel accepted, whatever it is. And they can't have that because they need you to show your gift. So stop hoarding your gift, because once you go, ain't no one benefiting.

Speaker 1: 3:49

Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the so Flippin' Extra podcast, a platform for me to express, explore and connect and be so flippin' extra. Why, I hear you guys ask. Well, babes, that's what brings me joy. So, without further ado, let's get into this episode, because I think it's going to be a good one. I got some tea. Honestly, guys, I'm a donut. You know, man, a big old, jam-filled donut with loads of sugar on the outside that when you bite into it it just gets stuck on your teeth. And then you play that stupid game when you was a kid where you're like, no, not gonna lick my lips until I finish this donut. I am the biggest donut.

Speaker 1: 4:29

I plugged in my mics, my big old, expensive, blood clot DJ and mic, but did I even have it on that first portion that I was, um, talking, regurgitating about gifts and stuff, I didn't have my mic on and I peeped halfway through that. I didn't have my mic on and I peaked halfway through that I didn't have my mic on. But I thought I can't stop now. I'm on a roll. I'm on a roll, I'm giving my gift. I'm giving my gift to the people. I can't stop now. But preparation is key. Next time I need to be better prepared. I mean, my mic's been plugged in for about a whole hour plus it's been clipped onto me for a little bit around that time as well, and I just, yeah, the preparation was there, I just didn't execute very well.

Speaker 1: 5:12

But yes, how are you guys feeling today? I'm feeling good today. I don't know. I'm feeling really good, which is wild because yesterday, being Saturday, was a busy day. I had a workshop. My workshop ran over. The workshop was packed. I hadn't eaten because on my way there I thought, oh, I'm running a bit late, I could do with some breakfast, but I don't have time to stop and grab something. I need to get to the workshop and get set up. So I didn't eat something, but I thought I now got a break in between.

Speaker 1: 5:47

But I realized when I was there that the break was only half an hour and everyone was just in the space they were creating and they were just vibes in and just mindful mending and they were communicating with each other. So I thought, for half an hour break, am I really gonna like lock everything off and the people who are already here can stay over until the next event anyway? Because I wasn't sure how many people were booked for the for the next workshop, and they were both the same, and so I just was like don't worry, my, my belly was singing sweet songs to me from the moment the workshop started. My belly was like babes, we're hungry. And then, like by the workshop started at 10.30, so by 12, it was like okay, lunchtime, we're hungry. There was like a whole choir and I was like babes, in a minute, listen, guys, give me another hour and a half and I'm gonna feed you.

Speaker 1: 6:39

And I didn't. I didn't feed them, I didn't go, I didn't stop, I didn't have a break, I just ran feed them. I didn't go, I didn't stop, I didn't have a break, I just ran through. And I'm not saying that like it makes me a better person, it makes me a fuck, sorry. Why am I saying sorry? It's my podcast. It does make me a friggin idiot. I should have ate, but yeah, I just wanted, I just wanted everyone to vibe.

Speaker 1: 7:00

And then the new set of people came. So I was like, oh, it's OK. And then after that my belly was like, do you know, I'll forget you, we're not even going to talk to you, we're not even going to sing anymore. So it just calmed down. So when I left I was able to get something to eat. Um, but and then in the evening I was Carnival Angels, which, if you do, you know what? If you guys aren't following the Carnival Angels page, follow the Carnival Angels just to support us.

Speaker 1: 7:23

Um, real women doing real things, women that love carnival. Um, ange is the owner of Carnival Angels and, yeah, she set up an agency. Her and Ashley set up an agency where we get bookings to do other things. So we had a private party yesterday and, yeah, we were there. Come out in the wings, host, get the crowd going, make them feel good. We um served them some patties a little bit later and then went about our business. But that did finish like two in the morning no one in the morning. We were finished but probably got out about two.

Speaker 1: 7:57

So I I'm a little bit tired today, but the energy is energizing, obviously, because that's what that's where it's at over here. So, yeah, I've had it. I've had a really good week. My week has been quite busy actually. Like the last couple weeks have been quite busy Good busy, though, like when busy is good, I love it. And it's good busy because I just feel like I'm really doing the things that I want to do. Like there's a little bit of this and a little bit of that, and I think people will see me on social media, they'll see my post now and it will be very confusing, and I've always had that, even before I started doing some of the new things that I'm doing. People be like what do you actually do and what's your niche? Niche? My niche is everything. Is everything a niche? I'm making a new friggin niche. My niche is we do bits. We do bits of everything.

Speaker 1: 8:56

You know, I used to get told the that phrase, jack of all trades, master of none, years ago, and it was like you need to think of something, you need to find something, because you know, jack of all trades, master of none, you need to master something. Babes, I'm the master upcycler. I mastered that and on top of that I get to do the other things. Like, from being the master upcycler, I get to speak on stages. And then from speaking on stages, I've gotten to just have the confidence to do more when it comes to actually be honest and open and say, hey, I want to present this thing, I want to do that, I want to speak on more stages. Like speaking on stages was my introduction to speaking in front of people, which lets me know I can present events, I can host big events, I can be that girl that does the thing. I can walk out on the street and have the confidence to have my mic. I mean, sometimes the confidence is dwindling. It's like, oh my god, and then you just go and do it. So it helps when you've got the right people around you just telling you that you can do that and you can do this.

Speaker 1: 10:01

So yeah, man, it's been a good week. It's been a good week following my dreams, all of them, all my many dreams that there are, and making money, doing what I love at the same time. So, yeah, how's you guys this week been Like? Whether it was last week or this week. What was the favourite part of your week? We're in June. Now I want to say we're in a new month, but we're like in double figures. No, we're not. We're the 8th of June. So, yeah, do you have any goals for June? What are your goals for June Interesting? Let me know. Let's tap in, let's in, let's lock in with each other and you know what?

Speaker 1: 10:39

One thing I know I need to do, guys, if you lot are listening, is really plug my podcast. I really want to plug that. I'm here doing this every single week and I don't think I'm doing that enough. So again, my gift of my gift of talking and communicating with people and, you know, making people feel good, because I have been told that my podcast makes people feel good I'm not using my gift. I'm not using my gift because I'm not sharing with people. That is here. I don't even think I actually posted once last week. That was here. And I know the last couple of weeks. If you heard my podcast two weeks ago, that was a hard one. That was a very emotional podcast for me because I was really just in my feelings and and I didn't even realize until I started talking. It really is like therapy, and so last week was just another quick one.

Speaker 1: 11:24

But yeah, I wanted to get back. I wanted to get back because sometimes, although the energy might seem off, I still feel good. I still feel good and I got do you know what? You know that phrase that when they say you ain't popping unless you've got haters? I just discovered that I've got haters. Let me tell you. Let me tell you.

Speaker 1: 11:45

So I was just talking to one of my friends and he was like yeah, you're the carnival queen. Everyone's saying you're the carnival queen. And I was just like one person, because I was at the Unity Cup last week. We was doing the Carnival Angels cheerleaders for the match, and so I was there and I know my friend, who I was talking to. I know his friend that was there and saw me because he called me over, I took a picture of him and everything. So I was like your one friend, call me a Carnival Angel, please. One is not everybody. He said OK. He said okay.

Speaker 1: 12:17

So well, someone else sent me a picture of you and I said I'll, who he's, I'm not telling you. I thought I call whatever, I don't care anyway. In it he said yeah, and he said they. They said I saw your friend. I said oh, so it's a woman. And he loved. And I said why would I know that? And he's added now I said cuz your voice changed, your voice went high pitch, so obviously it's a woman saying it. And he said okay, and I was like hmm, I said okay, I bet they said I saw your little friend as well and he's like laughing. I was like rah, not me, just out here, just just doing my thing and getting paid, and people are little in me like oh, look, I see your little friend. I was like anyway, and so he was just like to be honest, he was like she was a little bit rude and I was like why? And he said yeah, she was like oh yeah, I see, I see your little, your little nuff friend. I was like nuff.

Speaker 1: 13:10

I started busting up because things like that don't affect me and this is the whole thing I say about the term extra and people say you're so extra, you're, you're so much, you're enough, all of that stuff. Oh, are you coming in? Are you coming in my room? Oh, okay, um, yeah, oh yeah, they call you all these names because you are just a little bit more, bigger, a little bit more louder than normal people. You get excited more than other people you might be, and I use the word extra, but for me extra is endearing.

Speaker 1: 13:45

Show off feet is endearing, like if you do something, can you do it well, you are a show off. You are going to be called a show off. No one gives a shit about the person that is two-stepping, looking like you know they're going to fall over their feet. But if you make that two-step, look like you know you're one of Beyonce's frigging backing dancers Okay, oh, look at her showing off. Look at your little friend showing off. No, babes, we're just different.

Speaker 1: 14:08

And I thought, wow, okay, this is what it's like to have. And I'm going to say haters. I can't say the person's a hater, I don't know them. But I'm just out here living my cute life. I'm just out here having fun. I'm just out here enjoying the gifts that have been given to me the gift to perform, the gift of confidence form, the gift of confidence. I'm just out here just enjoying myself, loving life, getting paid, being booked and busy. And, yeah, I get that. I look at a little enough friend. I see a little enough friend and you'll take it okay, fan. Thanks for taking a picture of me and sending it to my friend. Like I love it, though. I love it, but do you know what it is?

Speaker 1: 14:54

Things like that make me realise I'm doing a good thing. I'm doing what it is that I set out to do Enjoy myself. We have a choice. We have a choice to either have enjoyment or be miserable little cunts. We have a choice. We have a choice to let people's opinions marinate in our spirit and make us feel shit about ourselves.

Speaker 1: 15:20

A couple years ago by a couple, a lot more than a couple years ago, but when I was younger, when I was a teenager, them kind of phrases, right there, would have made me go in my shell. I'd have been like, oh man, who said it? I can't believe someone would say something like that to me. Why would they say that I would be bothered? When I was in my teens, even early 20s, that would have bothered me because I'm doing too much. Listen, you know what you've done.

Speaker 1: 15:47

Whoever you are, babes, because I don't know, you might even listen to my podcast. Whoever you are, you set off my jackal or hide, whichever one it is, whichever the nuff one is, because there are definitely two sides of me. You set her off and she's going to be even more nuffier than nuff-nuff. Catch me outside, how about that? You see, next week yeah, I've got I think I've got another event. Let me check my calendar because, the way, let me tell you my opportunities of nuffness, since you want to talk about your little nuff friend, okay, yeah, next Friday that's a bit of a calm one, though, you know, listen, catch me in two weeks, catch me in two weeks and catch me the week after that. You, you want to know about your little enough friend. Yeah, she's whoa. Can you hear that? Ah, ready, ready to burst out of my skin.

Speaker 1: 16:40

It just makes me want to keep doing it even more. It makes me want to keep doing it even more, because the same thing that people love you for is the same thing that people hate you for. So you need to pick a side. Which one? Do you want to serve the people that hate you or do you want to serve the people that love you? I know where I want to serve. I want to serve the people that love me, I want to serve the people that are inspired by me, and I want to serve the people that want a bit of that and they want to know how that feels. That's where I want to serve, so that's where I'm heading. So, yeah, just keep watching, because it's gonna be a movie and I'm gonna leave you guys with this one.

Speaker 1: 17:20

Stop judging people with your eyes, but judge people with your spirit, because even the devil was beautiful. I heard this last week and it was a reel that someone was explaining and they were talking about the devil. When we have an image of what the devil looks like because we've been taught this image of this red person with, you know, legs, like uh, who, who? Legs, I don't know, and like troll, and then the body of this and the bottom of that and they have the horns, that's what, and you know, they're surrounded by fire. In our image, that's what the devil looks like. So we think if we're out and we see someone that looks scary and they look obviously not physically like the devil, but they look scary and they look big and they look aggressive, that's's the devil. But who the actual devil was? I'm not even going to say that, but he's a very angelic looking male blonde hair, blue eyes and bye, baby, love you.

Speaker 1: 18:22

So you can't judge people. You can't judge the book by the cover, but our spirits sense badness. Our spirits sense bullshit, bullshit. Our spirit senses it. But sometimes we question it Like is it me? Because everyone loves this person? So is it me, am I the problem? Listen, if your spirit senses the bullshit and your spirit don't sense senses the bullshit and your spirit don't tech to that person, then they ain't for you and that's fine. Just because everyone else gets along with them, it doesn't mean you have to get along with them. Some people don't like you and they will let you know that they don't like you. They might love everyone else. They don't like you and that's fine. You don't need to know why. Who gives a shit? Keep living your life. But we need to stop judging with our eyes and we need to judge with our spirit, because our spirit will tell us every time, every time, that gut feeling that you get when you're around this person, that when you feel like you're actually closing in on yourself, like you, you feel yourself getting small.

Speaker 1: 19:33

You know what I'm talking about as well. I bet you know what I'm talking about. I bet you can. I bet, when you hear that phrase, you can think of one or two or maybe more people that make you feel that way and you're like, message me and let me know if that resonates with you. Anyway, guys, peace out a time down west side is the best side, do I believe that? Whatever, I don't know, but what I do know is, wherever I'm at, the vibes at and the vibe be vibing, this is a good episode. I feel good, I feel high, I feel on good vibrations and I feel extra, I feel enough, I feel like I'm doing the most and I'm going to continue doing the most. Why? Because that's what brings me joy Joy every day. You're bringing me joy. Oh my God, I'm going to play that song right now. I love you guys. Bye.