EP 73: The Secret to Being Unforgettable: Seek to Inspire, Not Impress!

🎙️ The Secret to Being Unforgettable: Seek to Inspire, Not Impress ✨

What makes someone truly unforgettable? In this episode, I dive into a powerful lesson from Lisa Nichols—why the key to leaving a lasting impact isn’t about impressing people, but inspiring them.

I share real-life stories about shifting your mindset, breaking out of negativity, and the magic of the To-Done List (yes, you’ve already done some amazing things—let’s celebrate them!). Plus, we explore the power of visualisation, why your brain can’t tell the difference between real life and strong manifestations, and how to move forward when you feel stuck.

This episode is also dedicated to my best friend, Nads, who’s navigating deep loss. If you’ve ever struggled with grief, self-doubt, or feeling stuck, this one’s for you. 💛

🔹 Why “you can’t get there from there” is the key to shifting your energy
🔹 How to create a To-Done List and give yourself credit for your wins
🔹 The difference between impressing vs. inspiring—and why the latter is everything
🔹 The power of visualisation and why your brain believes what you see

✨ So, what’s on your Ta-Dun List? Let’s talk about it. DM me on Instagram [@isitdanidawkds] and let’s keep the conversation going!

🎧 Press play now & don’t forget to rate, review, and share if this episode resonates with you!

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Chapters

• 0:16 You can't get there from there
• 9:10 A friend’s story of change
• 18:35 The importance of shifting focus
• 36:18 Lisa Nichols’ powerful insights
• 1:20:45 Finding your “to
• 1:53:50 Manifesting positivity

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

You can't get there from there.

Speaker 1: 0:02

This was one of the first things I remember hearing when I started listening to audios of Abraham Hicks on YouTube. She used to say, in nearly every episode, you can't get there from there. And I was like where from where? Where's where from where? You can't get there from there. And I was reminded of this saying and I was able to recite this in a conversation I was having with one of my friends yesterday and she was telling me that work is going good now and the last conversation that we had, she felt that she was drowning, everything was just caving in on her and she just didn't know what was going on. And she, the conversation we had last time, she was like I need to leave this job, I'm drowning in it, like I just I feel like I'm suffocating. And then I, and then she said to me. She said what she decided to do was change the way she was feeling about it and talking about it. And I reminded her that you can't get there from there because, as she was speaking to me, it reminded me of that saying you can't get there from there. So what she stopped doing was talking about how bad everything was in the job, how she was feeling suffocated in the job, how she just wasn't understanding stuff and she started kind of sitting in it and trying to understand it and I was like, yes, exactly, you can't get there from there. You can't get to the next step in this position if you're so focused on where it feels really bad. You can't feel better about something when you're in the pits of where it feels bad, because even while you're in the pits of where it feels bad, you have to think about something different. If you can't think about it feeling better because that feels so far-fetched and it feels fake for you, you have to think about something that makes you feel good. So, while you're in the midst of the shit, everything feels like it's caving in around you. You feel like you're drowning, you feel like you're suffocating. Think of the things that feel good. Remind yourself of what does feel good. Remind yourself of what makes you feel amazing. Do the stuff that makes you feel good, because you're never going to feel good in the pits of where it feels like you're drowning. But there are things that still make you feel good, no matter what, no matter where you are. When you think about that memory, that moment, that thing. When you do that activity, you're always going to feel good. So you have to take yourself out and do that activity, or you just have to think about them, things that make you laugh, that make you smile, that going to feel good. So you have to take yourself out and do that activity, or you just have to think about them, things that make you laugh, that make you smile, that make you feel just joyful, and remove yourself, stop, pause, shift your energy, change it, because you can't get there from there. And that's how I want to start this episode today. But I'm going to go straight into the. I'm going to go straight into the. I'm going to go straight into my introduction because I've got got a lot to say today.

Speaker 1: 2:50

Hi guys, welcome to another episode of the so Flippin' Extra podcast, a platform for me to express, explore and connect and be so flippin' extra, why? I hear you ask. Well, babes, that's what brings me joy. So, without further ado, we're going to get into this episode because I've got so much to share with you guys, and my main thing is, I want to dedicate this episode to someone really special to me today. It's so funny. Do you know what the universe is amazing because, as I said that part of I want to dedicate this video to someone really special. That same person just sent me a video. But I want to dedicate this video to someone really special. That same person just sent me a video. But I want to dedicate this video to my best friend. Uh, I don't think she'll mind if I say her okay, of course she won't mind, she'll be like. Finally this bitch is mentioning me I want to dedicate this video to my best friend, lads.

Speaker 1: 3:39

Um, a couple days ago, her grandma passed away, and I'm really sure she won't mind me saying that a couple, if you aren't, as I'm so sorry, can we talk about later. A couple days ago, her grandma did pass away, though, and that comes after the beginning of the year. The first of January, her auntie passed it away, and I just want to let her know that I love you so much, babe. I'm always here for you and, yeah, I don't I don't know what to say. I feel like death, really death passings.

Speaker 1: 4:11

Um, after losing my dad, my connection with them is very, very spiritual, like because it's like they're always around you. So just remember that, no matter what you have literally in the last since this. This year you've just gained two angels and that's really special and your family is beautiful. Your family is so close to me. They've accepted me in. I've known your family for like the last 30 years. Yes, we're that old, calm down and you are so special to me and whatever I can do physically, emotionally, financially you know I've got you, babe, and if anything, I'm always there for you and you always know this. I hope you always know this bitch. You better know this.

Speaker 1: 4:52

So I just want you guys, whether you know nads or not, just send a prayer. Just send a prayer to my best friend, please, because I asked you, but send a prayer to everyone around you and send a prayer to those that you love. Send a prayer that those that you love from a distance, because there are some people in our lives that we love, that we, for whatever reason, we find it really difficult to communicate with them and connect with them, and we might be a little bit removed from them, but we still love them. We might be a little bit removed from them, but we still love them. And there are some people that you love that you can't always be in spaces with, for whatever reason, and I feel like when people pass away some, that sometimes people will say things to you like that's why you should, um, you should, oh, what's the word? That's why you guys should talk, or that's why you should. You should, oh, what's the word? That's why you guys should talk, or that's why you should do this and that's why you should. You know, let bygones be bygones or whatever it is.

Speaker 1: 5:52

But it's not always as easy as that, because there are some people that in your life they've hurt you for whatever reason they've hurt you, and I think that sometimes we need to put ourselves first. Not even sometimes all the time. A lot of the time we need to put ourselves first. And now she's calling me. I had to decline the call because I just wanted to get this out. Um, sometimes we have to put no, a lot of the time we have to put ourselves first because we'll allow people to just keep doing stuff because they're family, or we'll allow people, we'll allow things to slide under the rug because it's family and it's okay. It's not okay. It's not okay for people to kind of mistreat your kindness on and just do do certain things like I'm not. I'm not about to say whatever my thing is because clearly it's something otherwise, otherwise, why the fuck am I crying? But it's not okay. And yeah, just show just you can send love from afar. Remember that. And yeah, nads, I love you and this is, this episode, is dedicated to you. Okay, I am back. Guys, thank you for holding space for me. I really appreciate that.

Speaker 1: 7:04

And let's get into the rest of the podcast, podcast, podcast, podcast. So this morning I woke up and obviously, when I'm a little doom scroll I shouldn't say obviously, because I'm trying to get out of that habit, but anyway, we move and I came across this post and it was a post with. It looked like an extract from a pod, from a podcast episode, and the host was Jennifer Cohen and she was interviewing Lisa Nichols. Now, if you don't know who Lisa Nichols is, I don't know what, what rock you've been sleeping under, but crawl, crawl from out of it and consume her content because it is beautiful, like honestly, it's beautiful, her story is beautiful and she's such a great speaker.

Speaker 1: 7:46

And Jennifer Cohen answered the question how do you become unforgettable? So, lisa, her reply was seek first to inspire, not to impress. And instantly I was hooked because I was like that is one of my things, one of my goals, and I say this I just want to inspire people. I don't know what I want to even inspire you to do, I just want to inspire people. I want to make people feel good, like I want to inspire you to to feel good and and think great thoughts and be positive and be a freaking vibe. Do you know what I'm saying? So she went on to say she had some tips and she said most people's to-do list is long, but your to-done list? I was like come on to learn, your to-done list should be longer. And she, she, it wasn't just to done like d-o-n-e, it was ta done d-u-n. Your to done list should be longer.

Speaker 1: 8:35

And then she asked the question what is on your to done list that you can give your credit, yourself credit for? So I want you guys to think of what is on your to done list, those things that you've done that you can give yourself credit for, that make you feel good, because sometimes it's like we're chasing the things that we have to do. I'm, I am so guilty of chasing the things I have to do. I need to do this, I have to do. I'm. I am so guilty of chasing the things I have to do. I need to do this, I have to do this, I have to do this. But hang on, babes. What have you done? Like, what have you done?

Speaker 1: 9:01

Think about all the things that you've done that are so inspiring that other people look at and they are so inspired by what you do. That just really, it really resonated with me, because I don't think we spend enough time thinking about the things that we've done. I don't think we spend enough time thinking about the ways that we've already inspired people, and what it is as well is not everyone is going to tell you every time you inspire them. They're not going to sit down and be like, they're not going to message me and say, wow, dan, what you've done really inspired me. Don't get twisted, I do get their messages. I do get their messages and I absolutely love them. They literally fill my spirit with so much joy. But it's not going to happen every time. It's not going to happen every single time. You do something, and there are things that we do in the dark. There are things that we just do that not everyone knows that we've done, but they're still inspiring, whether everyone knows it or not. It's still inspiring because they, those are the things that make us us.

Speaker 1: 9:58

She extended that whole thing about what is on your to done list and what is on your to done list. So the things that, um, the way you, the way you love people, the way you forgive people god damn it, we've probably forgiven people. That is like if someone knew that we forgave that person for the things that they'd done, they'd be like how did? How did you forgive that person? The things that you have to do to forgive someone that has hurt you so bad and or taken something from you that you can't get back. It makes you a whole different person. It changes your dna. How do you forgive someone? Those are, those are the things that are very inspiring.

Speaker 1: 10:34

If you spoke about those things and then she went on to say that she shared a moment with us that she had with Angela Bassett, and she gave Angela Bassett a hug. She met her at an award show or wherever it was, and she gave her a hug and she said thank you for the things that you did in the dark of the night to show up the way you do in the middle of the day, oh, I was like what I was like what I was, like I had to. I had to write it down instantly. I had to write it down instantly thank you for the things that you did in the dark of the night to show up the way you do in the middle of the day. Because those things that you did when no one was watching, when no one could see, when you weren't posting it on social media, when the camera wasn't following you, when you weren't regurgitating what you did to say, guys, oh, my god, this is what I've done today, the things that you've done in the dark of the night that made you the person that you are, that made you be able to wake up and and just keep it going, just keep being you, just keep showing up. She was like thank you for that person.

Speaker 1: 11:40

And yeah, we all have those moments. We all have those things that we done. We done that, we done that, and that is who makes us who and we gotta be. We gotta be like pat yourself on the back, two slaps on your chest, three pats on the back, how many frigging thumbs up? Well, you can only really do two. Give yourself all of those because you did that. And yeah, don't forget that. With that said, I do want you guys to really sit in, sit in a space and think about your to done list, think about the things that you've done. That just make you think about the things that you've done. That just make you think about the things that you've done that are inspiring, and if and we can do stuff that have inspired us to keep going. And those things, more than likely they're inspiring other people. And sometimes it is just I just want to inspire, just want to inspire. You're doing that. If you want to inspire people, you're probably already inspiring people because you're already doing stuff like no one just wakes up and wants to be inspiring and it comes out of nowhere. You're already doing stuff that inspire people. Just keep doing it. So, yeah, what is on your to done list? Share it, if you want, or keep it to yourself, write in a book, journal it, journal it so you know exactly what you're doing.

Speaker 1: 12:50

Last week, I spoke quite a lot on just manifestation. I mean, I feel like I speak a lot of manifestations. It really is so much about me and more manifestations have come and also like, do you know what it is as well? Obviously, our phones listen to everything that we're saying so. A lot of information shows up on my phone about manifestation. Obviously, the algorithm be algorithm in. That's the stuff that I connect with, that's the stuff that I like.

Speaker 1: 13:17

So something came up today. It was basically talking about the brain, your brain, and it said that your brain doesn't know the difference. So this is nothing new to me, like I definitely do know this, but I love when things come up again and you're like yeah, I knew that, I know that, know that, I remember that, and it's like a reminder. Sometimes we get reminders of things that we already know, but it's a reminder of a space where we're at again because we needed to hear it. We needed to hear it at a particular time and the post was basically saying that your brain doesn't know the difference between something that happened in real life to something that you strongly visualise. So what does that mean? That means that if you can sit in visualisation, if you can sit in silence and just quiet and close your eyes and really, really, really think about the things that you want and see yourself, you have to see yourself in that space. You have to see.

Speaker 1: 14:11

And when you visualise this is one thing that I learned the key to visualizing. You can't see yourself as it can't look like you're looking at a TV screen and you see the whole image of yourself. So if you imagine closing your eyes and you picture yourself walking, you should be able to hold your hands in front of you and see your hands, not see yourself as a physical being like head, shoulders, knees and toes hands like if I'm waving. I can see like I can. I am my person in my visualisation. So if in my visualisation I'm walking up until my I'm walking up towards the doors of my dream house, I should only be able to see my house in front of me and as I go to open the door and turn the knob or put the key in the door and turn it, I should be able to see my hands turning that key and pulling the handle down and opening the door and walking inside. Because I am. That is me. I am physically in that manifestation. That is me, physically seeing what I see.

Speaker 1: 15:12

However, if you see yourself, if you see your whole self, it's like you're watching someone else, you're watching something. Does that make sense? I hope that makes sense to you. If it doesn't make sense, dm me and let me know it doesn't make sense, or you can send a message on the podcast. Let me know if it doesn't make sense so I can explain it even more. But you should be able to. You should physically be physically in your manifest, in your visualizations, and if you can visualize it, your mind doesn't know the difference between what is real life and what is what is visualization. So if you keep visualizing and you keep thinking about and you keep speaking about the things that are going wrong and the things that aren't happening, it's the same thing. So why not just think positive? Why not just visualise the best version? If it doesn't know the difference Already, be it, already, see it, be it, feel it before it even comes, so that you can. So when it comes, it's just normal. Yeah, I've been here before. I've absolutely been here before.

Speaker 1: 16:20

Um, and when it comes to thinking positive, like I really and truly believe that thinking positive, am I being extra if I say it saved my life? I feel like it really saved my life, like, not that I was on the depths of, like you know, unaliving myself, but just saved my life in the sense that I would have had a different life if I didn't find myself on a, on a spiritual, positive journey, I would have been a whole different person. I've been a miserable bitch, honestly, and it's not to say that I was that person before. But there are things that have happened in you know, maybe the last how many years that could have really. It could have really taken me there or there, could have made me a whole different person. But positivity allowed me to look at things and be like okay but I call it my little airhead way where it's just like okay, cool, like, yeah, I send you, I send you joy. Don't and let's, let's not get it twisted I am not this person that just people do dumb shit and I send them, I send joy all the time.

Speaker 1: 17:23

Sometimes I have to literally get the anger out of me. I have to release it and I have my release, my, my people that I'm able to release to and they're able to hold space for me. Let me get it out and then we return to normal, like they might even check me and be like babes, honestly, get over it now, you've said it, you've said it, get over it. I'll be like, yeah, you're right, you're right, you're right, you have to have them people that will not allow you to sit in, sit in things, but they'll definitely let you talk about it. They'll let you get it off your chest, they'll let you get it out of your body because holding it in it will come out in some different way and that could be an illness, it could be an abscess, it could be in, I don't know any other way, but it can come out in illness. You know you, all of a sudden you get a cold from nowhere.

Speaker 1: 18:06

Sometimes that's that hate or that negativity that you've been holding onto, that just has. It has to come out. It has to come out. But find your release mechanisms, find your people, find your tribe that you can release to and they're going to hold that safe space for you where we listen, we don't judge, and even if we judge, we judge ourselves the same, like do you know what I'm saying? So have that positivity definitely saved me? And it's either that or that. I'm either gonna think. I can either think positive or negative. But what's the negativity gonna gonna cause me? If I think the negative is gonna happen, where's it gonna get me? How's it gonna make me feel better? Let me just think positive. Let me think positive because it's just gonna make me feel, feel better and yeah, it keeps me going.

Speaker 1: 18:54

Um, what else have I got to say today, guys? I've got I've actually got quite a few things on my notes, but I actually don't want to say too much that I'm giving you a lot too much to think about, because we get too much already online, and so I want this to be a place where you can come get a couple of gems. I feel like I've given three big gems this week. I don't know, I have to still listen to it back, but I want to give a couple of gems and then I want you guys to get on with your day and I want you to spread joy. I want you to spread the knowledge. Um, I want you to feel absolutely amazing and, yeah, just just pay it forwards. However, however, that moves for you. So, with that said, I'm going to end it here and all my notes that I've got, I'm going to transfer them, because I've got some great notes that I still want to talk about for next week and I love you guys.

Speaker 1: 19:43

So, peace out, a-town down West side is the best side. Do I believe that? I'm not sure, but you know what I do know. What I do know is that no one cares as much as you think that they do, and everyone else is too busy being the main characters in their own stories to care about what you're doing. So whatever it is that you wanna do, just do it. Think positive, manifest the crap out of your life and get everything you want and visualize it. See it, smell it, breathe it, taste it, touch it and know that it's already yours. Be your own main character. See yourself at the top of wherever it is that you want to go, and just know that it can happen for you. I love you guys. Bye.