EP 71: Would You Still Do It If You Couldn’t Post It? Social Media vs. Real Life!

Valentine’s Day has passed, and I’ve got thoughts—big thoughts. This week, I’m diving into the things we do for usversus the things we do for content. If social media didn’t exist, would you still take that trip, hit the gym, or run that marathon? Let’s be real—we’ve all done something for the ‘Gram.

I also share some anonymous love stories (real and manifested), reflect on the power of kindness, and discuss the love-hate relationship with posting good deeds online. Plus, I get into why experiences matter in relationships and how to recognize the things that genuinely bring you joy.

It’s a mix of real talk, storytelling, and a little bit of extra—because, babes, that’s just how we do things around here.

✨ Listen now and let me know—what would you not do if you couldn’t post it?

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Chapters

• 0:00 Valentine's Day Social Media Engagement
• 5:52 Random Acts of Kindness
• 10:25 Personal Stories of Love and Kindness
• 23:33 Smile-a-Thon for Joy & Gratitude

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

So Valentine's Day was a few days ago and I've got some opinions, opinions that come from conversations that I've had, my own opinions and I shared some of them last week. If you didn't listen to that episode, obviously go back and listen. So we're going to get into it. Also, I'm going to be reciting some anonymous stories that were sent in to me and I haven't read. I haven't read these stories yet, so I'm really excited to read some of these stories I wanted people to send me in their Valentine's Day stories, good or bad. And yeah, I wanted to be a little storyteller this week, so definitely gonna enjoy doing that segment. But what I wanted to start this episode off with was a thought that came into my head this week and the thought was if you couldn't post it, would you still engage with it? So and that's your physical engagement so if you couldn't post what it was you were doing that holiday that you went on a little, you know, girls brunch, going out, raving your gym routine, climbing the friggin Everest mountain, running a mini marathon if you couldn't post any of that on social media, would you actually still do it? And it really made me think, like, what do we do? Because we genuinely are just passionate about it. And what do we do for content? Because, not gonna lie, like I'ma hold my hands up. Some things are for content. Sometimes I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna go there because I'm gonna get some content, a hundred flipping percent. Why? Because what I do feeds off of content. I, I need content. I make clothes. They need to be seen. I need content of me wearing this banging outfit. I need to go go out and capture content of me doing interviews. Why? Because I want to be a presenter and people need to see me out doing presenting Duh. But you know, when it comes to the gym, I'm not going to lie, sometimes when I'm pushing them heavy, heavy weights, and this is not all the time. So this is what I go to the gym for pure satisfaction of my body, looking good and feeling good. Basically. And I do go because I'm vain, not gonna lie, I've said this, I've said this many, many times I go gym and put my body through that pain because I am vain as fuck and I want to look good. I want to look banging, honestly. Honestly, as I've gotten older, I'm more aware of the fact that I do it because for health reasons, as I'm getting older and to keep my body more agile is that even the right word as I get older, you know, so that I can avoid accidents when I get older. But I definitely do it to look good. But there are times when I'm like get the camera on, get the frigging camera on, because I'm pushing 200 on this leg press bruv. Everyone needs to see what I'm doing. But I also do that 200 when there's no weights on it. I'm also like pop up bench pressing you know a couple of heavy kgs up in this bitch. And no, I don't record it because, like I said, that is my passion. But there are some things.

Speaker 1: 3:05

But yeah, I wanted to. I just wanted to put that food for thought out there like would you still do it, would you? Would I do? I've done a mini marathon and obviously I recorded that I was doing. Not sorry, it wasn't a mini marathon, it was a full marathon. It was how much was it? 10k? And I put, oh my god, I was so excited I'm doing this marathon and was excited. I've actually always wanted to do like a proper marathon, because when I was a kid I used to do mini marathons and so I really wanted to do it. But I've done it now. So people were like, would you do it again?

Speaker 1: 3:32

And I'm like, yeah, if I was going to record it, because I don't know if I am I, that I don't nah, nah, my body went through after ouch, but the content, listen guys, one thing I'm gonna be is real. I'm gonna be real as much as I can, and sometimes we're not sure. Sometimes the, the lack of reality doesn't come from being fake, it comes from hang on a second. I've never thought about that. So what else am I doing? What else am I doing just for the, for the views? If I could, if I went on holiday, I don't have to. I mean, I do want to show you how banging I've been working on this body. So I want to show you how banging this body looks in a bikini. But I don't have to show you how, I don't have to show you what it looks like.

Speaker 1: 4:14

But, like I said, my, I feel like, for there are certain people that their content feeds off of um, it feeds off of views, it off of you know, you have, I have to post, because if I don't post, people can't see what I'm doing, I can't get paid and, yeah, I'm trying to get paid out here, guys, honestly. So, yeah, but a food for thought. Let me know, what wouldn't you do if you could, if you wasn't going to post it on social media? Is? Is there anything that you're like? Yeah, I just actually, honestly. Thanks for making me think about this, danny, but I actually wouldn't do that. If I wasn't going to post it, I wouldn't even go. I wouldn't even go to that event. It's shit. I wouldn't even turn up. But only because I'm going to post it and the content's going to look good, I go.

Speaker 1: 5:02

Anyway, let's get into this episode. Hi guys, welcome to another episode of the so flippin extra podcast, a platform for me to express, a platform for me to express, explore and connect and be so flippin extra, why? I hear you ask well, babes, that's what brings me joy. So, without further ado, let's get into this episode. I'm so excited to read you guys, these love stories, honestly, okay. So before I go into these love stories in the, in the fall of love and hate, I thought I told you something I have a love-hate relationship with. And why would I talk about love and hate around Valentine's Day? Because it's all about love. Listen, people be acting like they're in love when they hate people, but whatever, that's a whole nother story. That's a whole nother episode. But I just watched a video and the video touched me.

Speaker 1: 5:52

This man was in Starbucks and there was a homeless man in there and he was a black homeless man. I don't know if that makes any difference, but whatever, I think the person that was filming him sounded like a white man and the homeless man is asking for something over the counter and at first you can't really hear what he's asking for, but you can tell he's being like brushed away. There's another woman that's kind of looking at him off in the distance and you know, it's just kind of like side eyeing, but whatever. And so the man who's filming says hey, buddy, get, I'll get it for you. And he said no, no, no. He comes to close to me, said no, I just want some water. He said okay, you can have the water, but is there anything else you want, like maybe an iced latte or something? It's obviously hot, he said. And he looked at it. I feel emotional just saying it.

Speaker 1: 6:41

He kind of looked at the man, then he looked at the over the counter and then he kind of like just kind of crossed his hands across his chest because it's that whole oh my god, wow, someone's being nice to me. And he said, well, I'll have a coffee. He said, yeah, yeah, order it, order what you want. And he said wow. So he says to the guy order a coffee. And then he looks back at the guy because it's that unsurety, like is this really happening? And then the guy says, do you want something to eat? And he said no, no, he said now go and get yourself something to eat. And again he just looks stunned. So then he's looking like. It reminded me of a child in a shop. When you tell a child you buy whatever sweets you want, and they're like oh my god, just so. He's like looking through the counter and he's just like. He said, yeah, there's the guy who's filming, there's loads of sandwiches, you know. So he picks one. And I felt really I felt the love for this guy and I was so grateful for this man sharing this with us.

Speaker 1: 7:38

And I know there's a lot of people have this love-hate relationship for people that film their acts of service to people less fortunate, and I like to see it. I like to see people doing nice things for people less fortunate and so, even like I didn't read the comments of that post I didn't need to, it made me feel the way it made me feel. But I've seen similar videos like that and the comments would be like, yeah, but it would help if you didn't share it. But it's just like it's a reminder of how you can help people, of how you can help people because if, if people there are certain people that if they never see other people doing good things for people less fortunate, even people of other ethnicities and stuff, they would never even think to do it themselves. And although, like even saying that the question before, if you wasn't going to post it on social media, would you still do it? There are some people that clearly only do it for social media, but there are some people that that's a that's a daily thing that they do. If they can help someone, they're going to help someone. The amount of people I help, I don't put that on social media, I'll just do it like I might.

Speaker 1: 8:46

Even there was one time over Christmas that I helped. Someone came up to me and in Tesco's it was a few days before Christmas and I was Christmas food shopping with my mum and he said can you buy me this and it was cereal and I spoke about on the podcast. I didn't film it, but I spoke about it because it made me feel good and, like I said, I will share something like that because I want to. I want to make other people think that we can do stuff. I'm not in a great place financially, but I'm obviously in a better place than this guy and, if I can afford to, I would rather buy one less packet of fucking crisps for my children than not let this guy get his expensive frosties, expensive frosties and milk. I'd rather get him that than even just get myself a freaking latte.

Speaker 1: 9:32

Sorry, let me take a sip of my drink, but I at one point I had done a few things. I had gone out with one of my online associates and we went to give out some winter warmers to people. So I had made the winter warmers out of jumpers she had given me and from clients that she had decluttered with, and so we went out and I just went to give them out, and then there was a couple of them. We kind of recorded it and I felt so uncomfortable in the process of recording giving these homeless people. Like you know, it was gloves, hats and scarves. I felt so and I was like I can't do this, like I'm happy to make them and, you know, even give them to a shelter, because I still, I would still do it. I would still do it whether or not it was being recorded, and even to post the content.

Speaker 1: 10:25

I very, I done a very light post on it because I just, I just didn't want to, I didn't want to post it. But it's something that I would still do and will continue doing, and I will sit down with homeless people and do mending workshops with them. Like that's something I'm trying, I wanted to do this Christmas but it just didn't happen. But finding a shelter where I can sit down and actually give them a skill in that they can, they can take with them because, yeah, you know, the problem that we had given them out stuff is that a lot of them weren't even taking the stuff that I had made, because they already had their stuff. They already had their gloves, hats and scarves, but a lot of their stuff would just need mending, that's all it is. So then I'd rather give them a friggin sewing, a little mini sewing kit. You're out on the streets all day. You've got something to do. Here's a sewing kit so you can mend your jeans. You can mend your jacket when it's broken, like that's. I'd rather do that, but yeah, anyways, that was my love hate.

Speaker 1: 11:20

My love hate relationship is for promoting. I love to see it. I hate it for myself. I hate to. Yeah, yeah, like if it, just if it was like I was out recording and something happened. That's different. But to be like, to be like put on the camera, put on the camera. I'm about to do something really kind Wild, ok. So I actually have a love hate for ASMR, especially if it's people eating.

Speaker 1: 11:47

Sorry, no, I don't mind, hang on, ok. So yeah, I have. I don't want to hear you eating into the microphone. Babes. There's so many people on TikTok that do that. I'm not going to. I don't know what that sounds like. I'm really sorry. I just put you lot through that. But if I had to go through it, you lot had to go through it. And now we have reached the point, and we reached the point of me reading out some love letters. If I don't get through them all because obviously you know I don't like to make my podcast too long, guys I don't know what to expect, but I don't have to be valentine's day letters that you might just want to. You might just want to send me a little something to read out like a story time. I'd be happy to do it. Let's just see. Let's just see if I can even read properly. It's been a while, okay, let's go story time.

Speaker 1: 12:50

I had a really tough week at work, under pressure from work deadlines. I arrived home to find my man waiting outside my house. I was shocked to see him there, as he said he was working away for the weekend and I wouldn't see him for Valentine's. Instead, he greeted me with hugs and kisses and told me he had a surprise for me. He said I had an hour to pack a weekend bag and not to forget my swimwear and a dinner dress. He gave me no clue where we were going. Of course, I packed as fast as I could. You know how it goes, ladies. Forget a weekend bag. I grabbed my 23k suitcase. Why are we like this? Why can't we just pack a weekend bag? Forget a weekend bag. I grabbed my 23k suitcase. Any anywho, I was ready and we hit the road. I love a night time drive, so for me it was so romantic. We had snacks in the car and we listened to music while we drove.

Speaker 1: 13:46

Where did we end up? In devon for the weekend. At the tree house in north devon a cute rural cabin with wood fire, proper cosy vibes. We had the best time our own little cocoon with dinner and a lobster pod bristo. What the hell is a lobster pod? A lobster pod bristo? Oh my God, I want one of those. Why do I want? I'm influenced by a lobster pod bristo and I don't even know what it is. We even had champagne on the beach. Hang on a second. The beach in devon. That must have been cold in february. Okay, whatever, we listen, we don't judge. We even had champagne on the beach. It doesn't end there. My babes had gifts for me, nothing too expensive but sentimental keepsakes that remind me of our time together. I love my man and he always makes sure to make me smile. We had the best time.

Speaker 1: 14:42

Oh, that was such a lovely story. That was a lovely story. I want to know who has a similar story to that, because, not gonna lie, I'm not gonna lie. That was my friend, was like Dan. I've never even had like a romantic Valentine's Day weekend. I've never been out for Valentine's Day. So I said well, what would your, what would your ideal Valentine's Day look like? And that's what she said. So, so I love it. It wasn't real, but it was. I said it's the manifestation, it starts with manifestations and I said watch, give it five years. I bet you have that, I bet you have that experience. My friend's a storyteller, though that story was well written, all right. So I've got another couple. The others are real stories, guys, but I knew that one wasn't. I said said write whatever comes to mind, write your heart's desire, okay. So here's my second story. These are, these ones are short stories, so get your ears in gears.

Speaker 1: 15:44

Valentine's in Thailand oh, come on, okay. I started dating a guy at work and to celebrate six months together. Six, no, okay, come on, wait a second. To celebrate six months. I need to. I need to re-evaluate the people I'm dating. Six months, okay, sorry, I'm gonna start again. I started dating this guy at work and to set up no six months, though. Okay, stop, stop, stop. I started dating this guy at work and to celebrate six months together.

Speaker 1: 16:11

We decided to book a trip to Thailand, which was about around Valentine's Day. I thought we were backpacking around Thailand, but actually he had booked the nicest hotels in three locations. We were away for just over two weeks and visited Bangkok, koh Teo and Koo Samu. Sorry butchering it. I'm butchering it because I'm jealous. It was the most amazing luxury experience. I already knew I loved him before the trip and it solidified that I wanted more adventures with this man. The best valentine's day I have ever had, and we went on to have two children and getting married. Oh see, guys, it can happen.

Speaker 1: 17:01

Anyone who's listening to this and you're like love is shit. That is a sign If you meet the right person and they just tick all your boxes. Tick all your boxes, don't pick eggs in a wine basket you can have experience. For me and this really shows for me, relationships are about experiences and no matter what happens in your relationship, the main thing is experiencing. And I had a very, very long relationship and when I think of the experience that I got from that relationship, there wasn't many. So, going forward, like my relationships going forward, I want them just to be full of experiences. So, no matter what, there's that kind of you have, that you have that love for someone because they brought so many experiences to you, even if you're no longer with them. But if it was just like a whole, how many years of mediocre, like and and what? Do you know what I'm saying? Okay, cool, I'm really enjoying this. I'm really enjoying storytelling segment.

Speaker 1: 18:00

I think next time what I will do is like actually just spend the whole episode doing stories. What do you not think should I? Should I bring it into an episode where I get to talk about something as well, or should the episode just be storytelling episode? Let me know what you think. Last story for this week she sent it to herself.

Speaker 1: 18:17

Oh okay, I got bullied throughout school for various reasons and on valentine's day I was surprised by a boy I used to get on a bus with every morning who didn't go to my school. He gave me a bunch of flowers and I was so shocked I walked off the bus beaming, however also a bit scared to go into school with them, because people would say I sent it to myself. This did happen, but I knew that I didn't, and it was a nice feeling to get a gift on Valentine's Day. So that was a proper short and sweet and I mentioned this at the beginning of my episode, that I had views and stuff about Valentine's Day and I done a post this week on TikTok saying about gifts and I don't feel like you have to give gifts on Valentine's Day.

Speaker 1: 19:01

I don't think it's all about gifts. And you know, having conversations with people and they're like I don't celebrate Valentine's Day, it's pagan, and it's mostly guys that say that. To be honest, this pagan holiday I don't celebrate it. And I was with one of my friends. He was just like do I celebrate Valentine's Day? And I said it really does depend who I'm with. I'm not pressed about it. If I'm with a guy who wants to celebrate Valentine's Day with me, I'm gonna celebrate it and if I'm with someone who doesn't, I'm not gonna be over too bothered. But I said I actually do think it's nice to do something and you know, give something, give something.

Speaker 1: 19:34

If I was with someone I probably would be like oh, it's Valentine's Day, I'm going to give you something. Can it be something small? And I wouldn't expect nothing but like get me a bottle of wine, that's what I drink. I don't need a big bouquet of flowers. Do you know how expensive flowers are? I'm not being funny and maybe I I don't feel like it has to be big, massive gestures, but I feel like there are a lot of people that need things like Valentine's Day.

Speaker 1: 19:58

There are a lot of people that are in relationships that are just they've maybe been with their person for a long time and the love has drifted. So they need something like Valentine's Day to remind them to show that love, even just for normal people, just a reminder be kind today, because it's actually love day. When I said that to me, he's like you know what? You're right, you know. And it's like yeah, because if I don't do nothing with with my partner for majority of the year, and then on Valentine's Day it's like, ah, they get this reminder that something's happening in the world. Actually, I'm gonna do something nice. That's nice and it's not fair that you know. Yeah, we should do this every month or we should do it should be celebrated every day. Yeah, it fucking should be. But how about it's not? How about it's not for everyone? Some people have really busy jobs, busy lifestyles. The kids are always there Like maybe it's Valentine's Day and you actually are like let's do something together. Let's, you know, drop the kids off with a family member and let's go do something. Sometimes you need that day that tells you it's okay to, it's okay to love, or it's okay to do something different to remind you to do that. So, yeah, I went off on a tangent Hang on. That was basically coming from the whole. It is nice to receive a. So, yeah, I went off on a tangent hang on that was basically coming from the whole.

Speaker 1: 21:16

It is nice to receive a gift. I received an anonymous card. I know who the card's from. I do know who it's from, but I received a card in the post. Like the thought of someone going out of their way to send something to you actually does feel good. I'm not gonna lie like I was.

Speaker 1: 21:31

I love receiving gifts anyway. I love if, if I receive PR, like it's it's Christmas. When a company sends me a package, I'm like, oh my god, I love receiving gifts and I and I've said this receiving gifts is one of my love languages, um, as well as words of affirmations. But it doesn't that, it's not the size of the gift, it doesn't. It's not about designer bags and expensive shoes and stuff like that. It's cute little things like a bottle of wine. I sound like a wino, but it's just, it's an experience. It's oh, let's go do this today. This is nice, but yeah, so yeah, thank you for those stories guys, thank you for sending them in, and it doesn't have to be Valentine's Day, it doesn't have to be a Valentine's Day special for you guys to send me in your stories, no matter what they are.

Speaker 1: 22:19

It might not even be a story about a Valentine's Day. It might be a story about a bitch ass more full that you just want to get off your chest. You know. Okay, all right, you see how, on like TikTok and stuff, people do their story times. But you might want that story told, but from an anonymous source. You don't want people to know it's you. You don't want, you don't want everyone to know that it's you that that person done dirty. But you, you just want to get the story out because you can't keep it in you. You can't keep it in you. You can't keep like hate inside you, otherwise it it comes out in different ways and if you need me to tell your story, babe, I will tell your story because I think I'm a good storyteller. I will take out the ums and ahs and when I couldn't get my words out, so that it reads me, come on, I want it to be nice for you. Lots of earwaves, but anyways, I have enjoyed this episode but episode, but I'm going to leave it there.

Speaker 1: 23:11

Have an amazing week. Whatever you do, do with love and compassion, or do you know what? Don't do it all in it. If it doesn't bring you joy, don't do it. What are you doing If you don't have to do it? If it's your job and you have to do it, then cool. But try and find that thing that really makes you feel loved, that brings you joy, that makes you smile.

Speaker 1: 23:33

Count how many times you smiled this week, have a smile-a-thon, smile-a-roma, smile-a-tab, I don't know what it's called and every time you smile, do a little tally chart. How many times did you smile today, what made you smile today, who made you smile today? And then at the end of the week look at who, all the people that made you smile, all the people all the time, how many times you smiled, what made you smile, and then now you have a whole tally. You have a whole document of who and the things and the people and the places and the and the experiences that bring joy to your life, and you know what you do with that document. You do it more often.

Speaker 1: 24:18

You do those things more often you find any reason that you can to do those things, because, at the end of the day, there's only two things that are guaranteed. Is it two? Life and death. Yeah, I think it's two. So, with that said I, I am gonna end this episode and, yeah, I love you guys and I can't wait to speak to you again next week. Peace out a town down west side is the best side. Do I believe that? Not really, guys, but what I do know is, wherever I'm at, the vibes are and the vibes always going to be around here. So make sure you come back, make sure you tell a friend, to tell a friend, because we're not going anywhere. Bye.