EP 66! Kickstart 2025: Goal Setting, Gratitude, and Manifesting Success

Welcome to the first Sew Flipping Extra podcast episode of 2025! 🎉 This week, we're diving headfirst into goal setting, gratitude, and manifesting success. I’ll share my thoughts on starting where you are, why accountability matters, and how to use the SMART method to bring your dreams to life. Plus, we’re kicking off a gratitude challenge for January—10 things a day to transform your mindset and set the tone for an amazing year ahead.

Join me as we explore the power of words, the importance of writing things down, and how creating specific, measurable goals can take your 2025 to the next level. Whether you're waiting for Monday to start fresh or jumping in today, this episode will inspire you to own your year and stand on business.

Grab a notebook (or decorate one!) and let’s get to work on building a phenomenal year together. Where my extras at? Let’s do this! 💪✨

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Chapters

• 0:00 Effective Goal Setting and Accountability
• 3:03 Manifesting Goals With Specificity and Gratitude
• 7:27 Cultivating Gratitude Community Together
• 20:28 Embracing Positive Energy and Manifestation

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

So we are well into January now. By well, we're five days in, and this means that most people have thought about how they want their new year to be. New year, new. Me and a lot of people are more likely to start on Monday, and the reason being is because New Year's fell midweek. So whenever a New Year's falls midweek, I always find that it's like I'm going to start on Monday and I don't know like going forward.

Speaker 1: 0:29

I just really want to get into the flow of starting when the idea comes into my head, as soon as that idea hits, like let's go straight away. You want to start eating healthier, just start now. Like there's no point in saying I want to start eating healthier but I'm going to have this last chocolate. If you have the thought mid eating session, you know this is going to be my last chocolate, but it's the words we use. Words are so powerful. So I want to eat healthier is very different than this is my last chocolate bar. After this chocolate bar, I'm not eating any more chocolate.

Speaker 1: 1:05

And it just really made me think about the way we set goals. That's what I've been thinking, I think last year, right Last year Well, it was last year, but last week I mentioned the do it method and what that meant. So if you can't remember, maybe neither can I, so go back and listen to last week's episode, but literally just asked chat GPT what's the best method for achieving goals set at the new year? And I specifically said new year just because I feel like whenever goals are set at the new year, I don't know it gives it. It gives it more, more hype when it's set in the new year as opposed to just setting a goal for the beginning of the week. But they're all the same and I thought, if I can get that, it just kind of applies to every single goal, and it gave me the SMART method of goal setting, which is SMART is an acronym for specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time bound. So for me, I don't really want to spend this episode going through each goal, like what SMART goals mean. I just wanted to get you also thinking about how you set goals, and one of them that is really important when it comes to setting goals and this is also in SMART goals as well is accountability, and I think that's a lot of the time. That's what's missing, because if we just set goals in our head and no one knows that we've set these goals. No one also knows that we didn't achieve our goals. So get yourself some accountability, partners.

Speaker 1: 2:29

Sometimes my way of showing accountability is putting something out there, so like maybe putting it on social media to say I'm doing this thing, la, la, la, la la, because everyone's waiting for this thing that you said you was going to do. Where is it? Where's the thing you said you was going to do, danny? And I'm like I need to do it because everyone's waiting. Everyone's waiting to see, and whether you think people are haters or not, or you think everyone's waiting to see if I fail, show them that you're not going to Show them that you're not going to fail, show them that this is what you're doing, show them that you're here to stay and show them that you're standing on business.

Speaker 1: 3:03

With that said, let me start my intro so we can get into this episode a lot more. Hi guys, welcome to another episode of the so Flippin' Extra podcast, a platform for me to express, explore and connect and be so flippin' extra why, I hear you ask. Well, baby, that's what brings me joy. So, without further ado, let's get into the rest of the podcast and let's talk about something. So another key part of goal setting that I think is really important is being specific, and the reason that one I think is really important as well, because that's also comes into manifesting. When you want to manifest something is about being specific about how you want and this also goes back to words. Hold power our words. We speak the word of what we want.

Speaker 1: 3:53

So again, let's just say I wanted to upcycle more stuff. So I say something like I want to. My goal is that I want to upcycle more clothes. What does that mean? Two is more than one, yeah, three is more than two. Obviously, four is more than three, but yeah, what does that mean? I need to put a number on that. And then I also need to say it with conviction because I want to do something. It's very different than I'm doing something.

Speaker 1: 4:27

So, instead of saying I want to upcycle more clothes, I would say something like I am going to upcycle 12 pieces in January, 12 pieces that I'm going to put online. Instead of saying I want to set up my website by the end of January, I'm going to have my website set up and you know X, y, z. To be really specific with the goals that you want and the way you word them. So, whether you're writing them down or you're saying them out, I would say if you're setting goals, you write them down. Know I wants. What are you doing? What does that look like? Make it measurable. When are you doing it by? And this is me holding myself accountable by saying this on the podcast, because if I'm saying this to you guys, I got to be about it. I got to make sure I've done it myself. I'm doing it myself.

Speaker 1: 5:13

So last week I was with my girls and we just said goodbye. We basically had the 2024 funeral Not that 2024 has died, but it was last year and so we all wore black and we sat down, we had food, we broke bread and we gave a presentation on how our year went and what we're looking forward to doing this year. So I was able to just talk about what my goals were, what it was I wanted to achieve this year, but I haven't put them into specific goals yet. So I'm definitely going to do that today. And just even recapping on how last year went was great, because it's so easy to forget the good things that happened when there's a lot of chaos around you. So for me. I sat a lot last year in the fact that I wasn't doing as much as I felt like I was doing the year before, but I had a good year.

Speaker 1: 6:10

I'm still here. Last week I spoke about a few friends that had lost someone, and then on New Year's Day, my best friend lost her aunt like literally, she didn't even make it into the new year. So that's just one thing in itself to be so proud of. Like I'm still here. And then my mind is still here and my spirit is still here. My body is still here and my limbs are still here. I can still move my arms. And if you can't be grateful for the things that are still working, if your body feels like it's you know, it's's shutting down I'm sick all the time and all of this stuff be grateful for what it is that's working again.

Speaker 1: 6:49

A lot of the time, when something's not going well, like when you have an ache or a pain in your body, it's so easy to focus on the ache and pain and bring it to the forefront of every conversation. Oh Danny, how are you? Oh, my, my leg hurts my knees giving up it's, you know? Oh, me, back, me, back, me, me back. Do you know what I'm saying? Instead of I'm feeling better than I was yesterday. How about that? I'm feeling great today. I'm great today. I'm great today. If you're better than yesterday, you're great today, I'm better today. I'm better today. I'm better today, I'm feeling good. Sometimes.

Speaker 1: 7:27

Also, when someone does say how are you feeling, you don't have to go into it, you just say I'm good, I'm feeling good, but a lot of the time, we just want to tell everyone where we're at. But why, though? Not everyone needs to know, not everyone cares. That's the honest truth. Not anyone cares. I have a thing that I don't really tell people what's really going on, unless I think you can help me. So, unless you're, my peoples and I'm sharing a problem shared is a problem halved.

Speaker 1: 7:56

It's not always a problem shared is a problem halved. Sometimes, your problem shared is a problem quartered and fractured between a bunch of other people that are trying your business. Sometimes, if people can't help you, you don't need to tell them, and if they're not in your circle, you don't need to tell them. You don't need to be like yeah, you know, because singing, singing off all your problems, which just really puts you more deeper into it, deeper into it deeper into it, deeper into it, deeper into it. So that's just something I just want I want you to be mindful about. Not everyone, not everyone needs to know, but, honestly, just not everyone cares. I really don't want this episode to feel like it's negative. I hope that didn't come across negative, and the only and the only reason I'm sharing that is because I want everyone to feel so much better, lead with gratitude this year.

Speaker 1: 8:46

If you didn't write down your gratitude, if you didn't have a gratitude journal, or you didn't journal your gratitudes last year, do it this year because, honestly, it does something inside of you when you are grateful. It does something inside of you and there's a big difference between just genuinely saying, oh, I'm such a grateful person, and actually feeling gratitude through your veins, like every single day, noticing the small, tiny little things that happen that you can be grateful for, because majority of the time, people are grateful for the big things that happen. Someone does a big gesture for you. Someone I don't know is like oh, I know you're struggling, here's a thousand pounds, and you're like, oh, my god, some people would be like I can't believe so and so done this for me. This is massive compared to someone that really just sat with you and listened to your thoughts and then actually gave you step by steps of what you could do to make that a thousand pounds, which can then make two thousand pounds, which can then make ten thousand pounds. Someone that gave you um links and contacts to help you with something financial that can just build your bread. A thousand pounds is, it's gonna go soon, it's gonna pay your debt that you need it for, and then you still don't't have the key and you don't have the tools to help you not get back there, whereas someone can just sit and give you knowledge, but a lot of the time, if you're not aware of the gratitude and the small things you would hold so highly that person that gave you the money over, the person that just spoke to you and gave you the knowledge. So I don't know.

Speaker 1: 10:31

I every anyone that listens to my podcast. I would love for us to all do this together. I don't even know all of you that listen, like some. Sometimes, when the numbers are numbering, I'm like I wonder who, wonder who those people were. I don't know who's listening to it, but let's do this. You lot can message me, you can message through the podcast if you listen to it on buzzsprout. You can leave a fan mail or fan message or you can hit me up in my dms. You can. If you're a whatsapp friend, you can hit me up with my whatsapp and show me your gratitude journal. Buy it doesn't even have to be. You don't have to go spend 20 pounds on an official gratitude journal. You can just get a simple notebook and that's your gratitude book, and for the whole of january.

Speaker 1: 11:14

Come on, let's do this together, starting today, starting sunday, sunday, the. What are we? On sunday, the 5th of january, let's start our gratitude journal together. Let's start our journey together. And you know what, how? About? At the end of the month, if I know who's in with me, I'll set up a Zoom call and we can just talk about it. We can just talk about how it made the effect that it had on us. By the end of the month of everyday journaling, there's a book called the Magic. The month of everyday journaling, there's a book called the Magic which is part of the Secret Family, and when I read that book, I think it was day two. I might find a book and I'll put it up. It was 10 things. So we're going to start. Do you know what? I was going to give you a lot free, but we're going to start. We're going to start in, we're going to throw ourselves in.

Speaker 1: 11:58

Today, january the 5th, 10 things that you are grateful for. Big things, small things, whatever it is, 10 things you are grateful for. I went to the train station and I just made the train, or the train driver saw me coming down the stairs and he held the doors for me. I'm so grateful. I was driving and the person that let me out, even though there was traffic ahead, and you know, no one else is letting me out. I'm so grateful Small, little things, for the penny that I found on the floor Like, ah, everything, everything and anything, ten things a day you're grateful for. So, by next week, sunday, when the next episode comes out, we've then found 70 things that we're grateful for. 70 things, and there's the obvious ones. I'm grateful for my mom and I'm grateful for my kids and I'm grateful Nah, let we got what we're grateful for and why I'm grateful for, because Give it a reason, give it a platform, give it the attention that it deserves. And, yeah, by the end of January, we're going to have a group. We're going to have a group conversation, we're going to have a group Zoom call and then, yeah, it could be a monthly thing. Let me know if you're in, let me. Oh god, I'm so excited. Oh, I've always wanted to have a community.

Speaker 1: 13:21

Who's in the? Oh god, I love it. I'm gonna have to give it a name the extras. Oh, because I love the whole main character. But do you know what it is? I don't know if it's the ADHD thing, but I'm the person that when I'm watching something, I'm looking at behind. What's happening behind, what are the extras doing, because they are important. The extras are the stars of the show. So, yeah, I think it. I think it's gonna be called the extras. Who's my extras, where's my extras at? Okay, cool, that's gassed me. I'm not even gonna lie. I hope you lot in with me. It's gonna be amazing.

Speaker 1: 14:01

Get your gratitude, get your gratitude book. I've got a. I've got a notebook over there, so I might just use that one and I might just decorate it. It's a simple notebook. You know them jot notebooks. I'm going to decorate, I'm going to do change the cover, put a cute little cover on it, put some stickers on it, maybe make the front of it like a little mood, a little mood board, yeah, a little mood board. So show, show me yours, show me your gratitude book. Guys, tag me in your gratitude book this week, please, please and thank you. I'm gonna show these up, that we've got a community over on this side, how you mean last week's episode.

Speaker 1: 14:35

I started with things that we're not bringing into 2025, but here's a few things that I am bringing in. I'm standing on business. I'm standing on business. I'm minding my own business. I want to focus more on myself than other people and I feel like I've been doing it over the years. But when I say I want to do it more, I mean it Like I mean business. I can't be gossiping about what someone else is doing because I don't even care anyway. Sometimes I'm just gossiping. Not that I'm a heavy gossiper, but do your thing in it. Do your thing. If you're an arsehole, baby, be an arsehole. I love that for you. I'm minding my own business.

Speaker 1: 15:11

I am writing things down more. I actually want to get a small little notebook, like a little pocket notebook, that I can just always jot down ideas, because I'm forever having ideas and there's so much power in writing stuff over putting it in your phone, I feel like, because everything is on our phone. Sometimes you just want to put it down so I might write something in my notes and not go back to it, or maybe it's. Maybe it's the case that I can write in my notes and every day I go into my notes and and just write down the things that I jotted down really quickly when it came to me as a thought in my head. At the end of the day, I just need to jot down my thoughts or my notes of these ideas that come to me and spark me, because sometimes, like I have a great idea and then when I come to, when I'm like, oh, so right, what was the idea? I can't think of the idea and it that could have been your, that could have been your winning idea, that could have been your winning idea. So, so attack things more instantly. That's what I really want to do.

Speaker 1: 16:02

And reaching out, reaching out to brands and companies that's probably my big one, because I know that's the one thing that's missing. I'm doing the work, I've got the skills, I've got the accolades, I've done the biz. I need to reach out. I need to clean up my brand. Anyway, I need to clean up my company. But just really reaching out and putting myself out there, throwing myself in the deep end, I can swim I'm quite a good swimmer as well but not being scared, and I know I did say this last year. You lot that have been here for over a year, you know I said this and it didn't hold weight, Like I didn't do it enough last year to put myself out there, write like five emails a week of these brands I wanna contact, prepare to be sick of me.

Speaker 1: 16:54

New year, new me. And I don't care what anyone says about, oh, these people. Every year, new year, new me. Yeah, and I said it again and I'm saying it again and I'm standing on it. And you know what, if by any chance it's not as big as, it's still going to be better than so. Every year is a new year, new me. Every year is a new year, new me. And I'm going to say it again next year. How about that?

Speaker 1: 17:21

So another one of my key goals this year is to pay more attention to my consultancy and actually advertise myself as an upcycling consultant and what that looks like, because I said it to a few people and they've been like, what does that mean? And maybe I'm just trying to make myself seem a bit more professional, but just really take it seriously. Like really take my upcycling as a professional seriously, because I've been doing it for years. I've been doing it since I was 20, and it was fun. It was, you know, a hobby back then. It is, it is my thing now.

Speaker 1: 18:04

Like I'm out here, master upcycler, I've got to have the consultancy behind me and what that means is just, you know, when someone messages me because on a regular I get people just DMing me and say, have with an idea and I will give them the information I'm just like, yeah, babes, this is what you should do. Obviously, if they want me to do it, that's where the fee comes in. But a of the time, like even just giving information out, I couldn't charge for that. But I just, I just want to help everyone. But, yeah, just being a problem solver, solving people's problems when it comes to things they want to upcycle, like them. You know, when I do clear outs, I and I'll go through something. That you know.

Speaker 1: 18:41

The reason that sometimes people don't want something is because they don't like the way it fits anymore. It's not their style, but they like the print. Okay, boom, that's cool. Babes, we're gonna take that item and just make it into something else. So there's that. But it's also the workshops and the training and, as you don't know, I love the workshops. It's being able to go to a company and saying, right, this is an idea for a workshop that I've got that we can do. That would be part of it Talking to people and their businesses about sustainability and, yeah, managing people's projects that they have in general. So I really want to put that into a package and be able to deliver that. So I'm just not out here just doing bits, I'm doing the damn thing. So that's something that I'm just not out here just doing bits, I'm doing the damn thing. So that's something that I'm really excited about.

Speaker 1: 19:30

The end of last year was really me sitting down and thinking I don't know what all the changes need to be, but the changes need to happen and Narinda does the 12-week year. It's a book and I've read the. I'm still going through the book on Audible. It basically is, instead of saying, right, this year I want to achieve this, putting it down into smaller scales because I can't think too far ahead. I find it really difficult to. To set goals for the year, especially making them measurable, so to say, by January, by February, by March, is so far ahead that it just doesn't make sense to me, and so something like a 12 week year makes so much more sense, because it's just smaller. This is what I'm going to do in 12 weeks, and at the end of that 12 weeks, this is where we're at, and then you get to give yourself a reward. At the 12 weeks, you take a break and then you start again. So, yeah, that's definitely something that I'm going to be adding as well.

Speaker 1: 20:28

One I hope your new year has started absolutely phenomenally and you're excited about this year. You're excited about all the things that are going to come to you. You're excited about what you're putting out there and getting back, reaping all the benefits of all the good stuff that you're doing. I hope you are prepared to have an amazing year and, if you've decided to wait till Monday, the 6th of January, have an amazing year, have an awesome year, and I hope this episode even makes you feel that your year is going to be even better than you think it is, because, whether we think it's good or bad, it is what it is, it is what we say, it is. We manifest that shit we put, we put the energy out there of everything that we're gonna, we're gonna get. If we say it's shit, it's shit baby. If we say it's amazing, it's absolutely amazing, feel it, put feeling into every thought, put feeling into everything you say, because the feeling is what really drives that.

Speaker 1: 21:25

Yeah, and with that said, peace out A-town, down west side, is the best side. Do I believe that? Not really. But wherever I'm at, the vibes are in it. That's the one thing I know for sure. Wherever I'm at the vibes are the vibe's always here every week, all day, early day, baby, and yeah, we're just gonna always keep bringing a vibe. So, yeah, where my extras at, let's get our gratitude journal started and let's, yeah, let's go love you guys. Bye.