EP 63: Mindset Magic: Transform Your Energy, Transform Your Life

Welcome to another Episode of the Sew Flipping Extra Podcast!

A platform for me to express, explore, connect and over all be Sew Flipping Extra... why because that brings me joy.

In this episode of The Sew Flipping Extra Podcast, we’re diving into the power of mindset and how it shapes our reality. From relatable TikTok moments to life-changing quotes, I’m sharing personal stories, real talk, and a bit of laughter to remind you why protecting your peace is non-negotiable.

We’ll chat about:

• Why stressing over things you can’t control is draining your energy.
• How mindset can stop a cold in its tracks (yes, really!).
• The importance of non-negotiables in relationships and life.
• And why life is way too short to spread anything but good vibes.

Plus, I need your help! Send me your favorite quotes or affirmations to feature in next week’s episode—because sharing is caring, right?

This one’s short, sweet, and packed with energy. Let’s keep the vibe high and remember: joy is always a choice!

Chapters

• 0:00 Mindset and Self-Discovery in Daily Life
• 7:36 Mindset and Wellness for Daily Productivity
• 12:31 Embracing Change and Positive Vibes

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

So I literally just had a quick two minute stroll on social media just to see if there was anything that jumped out that made me want to talk today. One was like a funny video. This girl was calling up her friends, right, and she's saying did you mean to post out your stories? And she's getting their reaction and oh my God, listen. And they're like well, what's up? No, did you post it on purpose? And they're like's our post? No, did you post it on purpose? And they're like no, no, no, stop playing with that pose. One of them was like please, babes, I'm, I'm a tiktok slut. You can't fool me. I would die. If someone called me up and asked me, I'll be like oh my god, my fanny's on social media? Like I don't even know, not that I just have pictures of my fanny in my phoneanny's on social media, like I don't even know, not that I just have pictures of my fanny in my phone.

Speaker 1: 0:46

Okay, moving on swiftly anyways, then the last thing I just saw just now, it was a quote. I love a good quote. This one says nothing drains your energy faster than your own thoughts. Stop stressing over what's beyond your control. Protect your peace. Do you know how important. Protecting your peace is like, honestly protecting your peace is so important, and that's one thing I learned on my journey of self-discovery and self and self in general, was there are so many things that we can't control, so there are so many people that we can't control. We can't control people's feelings. We can't control people's feelings. We can't control people's thoughts, but our thoughts we can control. So when we stress over our thoughts that we can control, most of the thoughts that we're thinking aren't necessarily even anything that we can control. Does that make sense? Does that make sense? Let me see if I can make that make sense. Most of the stuff that we stress about is out of our control, so all we can really focus on is what we can control. So if something is happening in our time space that we can control, that we don't like, then we can do something about it. So if it is someone, the way someone is treating us or the way someone is acting towards us, we can control that by either one maybe speaking about it, if you care, if you want to that by either one, maybe speaking about it, if you care, if you want to, or we can ignore that person. We can remove ourselves from situations, but we can't change that person. Too many people out here trying to change people are don't like the I don't like that about that person, so I'm going to change it. Uh, what are you, god? No, you're not. You can't change people. People can only change because they want to change.

Speaker 1: 2:27

When you get into relationships with people, you meet people. It's like I like this, this, this, this, but that thing can't. No, I don't like it and that is the worst, so I'm going to change it. No, you have to have your non-negotiables, whether it's friends or partners that you're, people that you're interested in. There are things that you're like yeah, and there are some things that are non-negotiables. There are some some things that people have or some things that people do that you're like absolutely not, absolutely not. I'm just not into it. But you can't change that. You can't say I don't like smoking, I don't like the smell of smoking and people that smoke. But meet someone and be like oh my God, they're so everything, but they smoke. They're gonna stop smoking for me Because they will bruv. They will tell you they're gonna stop smoking, will they? How many years later are they still smoking, 16 years later? Oh, stop it, then people will only do something because they want to, and if they do it for you, it has to be strong enough. But you can't rely on that for you to decide if you're gonna go into something.

Speaker 1: 3:29

I went on a bit of a tangent, but you understand what I'm saying. Let's do the intro. Hi guys, welcome to another episode of the so flipping extra podcast, a platform for me to express, explore and connect, and you know what to also be so flipping extra? Why? Because that's what brings me joy, and life's too fucking short. Honestly, life is too short. In the last few weeks I've heard of way too many people that have passed. Too many of my friends, loved ones, have passed, and by too many. That could be two. That's two personal people that I know who have lost someone, like in the last one this week, one last week or the week before. And then also there's the people that I know, someone who knows someone. Life is too short, man. One of these people were 91. They lived their whole life. They lived a great life. They had so much support and loved ones around them, and one of them was she was in my age group, like, like in her 40s, could be like 48 or something. Life is too short. I lost my dad at 55. Life is too short, like I don't know.

Speaker 1: 4:42

Just do the thing. Whatever it is, just do the thing. Don Whatever it is, just do the thing, don't stress. And that's hard. Honestly, that's hard. I get phone calls on my phone. I'm like I ain't got the money. Please stop calling me, leave me alone. But I can't stress about it. If I really focused on the things that should cause me stress or could cause me stress, the vibe that you lot get would not be the vibe. And that's not me saying I'm faking it. I'm not out there faking it. That's what I do things that bring me joy, so that every day I have something to feel joyful for, instead of focusing on the things that don't feel good.

Speaker 1: 5:20

There's another quote. This ain't this isn't going to be a long podcast today, by the way, guys, because when I said that I had a busy week this week, one was not lying when I tell you what I did yesterday. But another quote that I saw. I think I screenshot it. Let me grab a screenshot real quick to make sure. I always want to make sure I read the quotes properly. The quote was mindset changes everything. Mindset changes everything. And the reason why that stuck is because last week, I think, I said to you guys that I could feel a cold coming in, but I didn't have time to be sick. And then during the week like you can probably slightly hear it on my chest I haven't had time this week to be sick. And I always say to my kids when we're mostly my kids, because not everyone's ready to hear it They'll say oh, I'm not well, I feel sick, what's wrong?

Speaker 1: 6:13

My nose is running. Babes, my nose runs in the summer. My nose runs like because I ran. I went for a run and my nose started running. That doesn't mean I'm sick, it doesn't equate to sickness. Oh, I'm sick. Why I got a cough? I coughed because I ate a chili and it went down my throat. Do you know like? There are certain things that they doesn't mean that you're sick. But what we tell ourselves, it is what it is. It is what it is.

Speaker 1: 6:40

If you said you're sick, you're sick, you're going to feel sick, all of a sudden your energy gets drained, your shoulders get low, your, your eyes get low and you're like oh, have you ever done a sickie? Have you ever called in sick at work. You'll be like, oh my god, okay, I have to call in sick because I've got the best day planned today, but I have to call in sick. What do you do when you call in sick? You lay down, get all cozy, your voice changes and you call up, call up your work and your eyes? You're probably probably doing it with your eyes closed. Hello, can I speak to the manager? I can't come in today. Oh, what, what's wrong? They know you're lying anyway, but whatever, I don't feel well, I've got a sore throat and I've been on the toilet. The best thing to say, if you are ever going to call in sick, just say you've been on the toilet, because they don't fuck with diarrhea. I've been on the toilet all night, so I just need to. I, I'm gonna go and call my doctors. You're, you're.

Speaker 1: 7:36

That sickness felt real. That sickness felt real in that moment. He was on the phone faking your sickness to get the day off work. It felt real. You weren't lying in that moment because it was what it was. It is what it is, but then it takes a moment. I've, I've done it. I used to do it when I used to work for, like for an employer, and then you put the phone in your night thank you, I should be. Do it when I used to work for, like for an employer. And then you put the phone in, like, thank you, I should be in tomorrow, but I'll call you in the morning. If not, okay, bye, put the phone down. It takes a couple seconds to get, to get back to reality, to remind yourself that you're not actually sick, because it takes over you. Your mindset is so strong. It takes over.

Speaker 1: 8:13

So when you tell yourself you're sick, I'm going to get sick, all my kids are sick, so I'm going to get sick. This one has a cold, so I'm going to get it. My kids can come in with all the coughs and the flus. They were coughing their ass off last week. Okay, carrie still slept in my bed.

Speaker 1: 8:28

I'm not, I'm not, I can't get sick. Who, if I get sick? Who's looking after me? They can get sick and I'm here doing this, that the other getting medicine, getting water, getting this who's looking after me? I ain't got time for it. I ain't got time to be sick. Maybe if I had a man, I would might decide to be sick and let someone bring me soup. I ain't got that so, but I ain't got time time because I got too many things that I want to do. I was so excited this week that I had so much stuff that I wanted to do I didn't have time to be sick.

Speaker 1: 8:56

But I definitely do believe that you tell yourself in your mind you're sick before it even gets a chance to take over your body, the littlest tinge in your throat I'm sick. Where, with that littlest tinge, you can go and buy yourself a whole frigging bag of ginger and boil that shit up and get rid of that. But we make a decision to let it take over us and let it beat us and let it tech us or gotta keep it moving. And that's not me saying like, when it's time to relax and rest, it's time to relax and rest, it's time to relax and rest. So I sound like I'm saying just ignore it, keep going, go out and spread germs. But I'm saying that sometimes it's just a sore throat and take a couple of them, little sweeties. Sometimes it's just a cough, sometimes it's just a runny nose. But the moment you give it a name and you give it a title and you put it on a platform and say I have the flu. Now the flu comes. It was just a runny nose before, now it's a flu, it's a full-blown flu.

Speaker 1: 9:55

And what I said to someone this week actually, oh yeah, my throat feels a bit funny, but I ain't got time for it. Man, I think it was at the gym and they was like, yes, going around this, they gave me the name, something, something, virus or whatever. I said, okay, I don't think it's at the gym. And they was like, yes, going around, they gave me the name, something, something, virus or whatever. I said, okay, I don't think it's that. My throat is just a bit tingly at nighttime. So, yeah, I just got to get rid of it, took a little ginger shot, finished my workout, I was done.

Speaker 1: 10:18

So, yeah, mindset is so important. We have to keep it just strong and thriving all the time, not just when it suits us. Um, but yeah, do you know what I wanted to do this week and I'll probably hopefully do it for next week? But for anyone that's listening, do you know I'd love for you lot to do. Send me in your favorite quotes, because I really want to read them on the show and share them with anyone else who's listening.

Speaker 1: 10:41

That just needs a good quote. What's that quote that really gets your day going, really makes you jump up and say you know what that's it. That's the one. This quote gives me strength, it gives me energy, it makes me feel powerful, it makes me feel like I can do anything, I'm empowered, I'm beautiful. Maybe it's an affirmation. If it's not a quote, it could be an affirmation, and I'd love for you lot to send them to me so that I can read them and we can share it with everyone. Why? Because sharing is caring. Caring 80s babies, care Bears, fans stand up.

Speaker 1: 11:17

But yeah, like I said, today was going to be a short one, guys, because I'm off out today. But I've got. I want to have a quick spruce up of the my flat before I go. Have a quick spruce up of the my flat before I go. Have a quick tidy up by quick. It's probably a lot of procrastination in there, to the point where I've got no time and I need to do an upcycle. I'm going to an all-white party today, so I made my dress. I want to do a quick flip, flip, flip video, so I need to head over to my studio. I also actually um, because I'm going out tomorrow to the gigs party. Um, I need to finish off princess naya's outfit and I also need to. Ah, bomber me now hard that it brown the brown me now. Oh my god. Oh my god, I needed brown um ribbon. Ah, I need to get on amazon right now. Okay, guys, it's been amazing I'm.

Speaker 1: 12:12

I can't wait till next week to tell you how the events were, how they went. Make sure you stay in touch with me. Keep up to date on the instagram. There's gonna be a few changes around here. I am changing my. Well, I need to do a photo shoot, but I yeah, it's going to be a few visual changes to the podcast, to my page.

Speaker 1: 12:31

Um, giving Ikea way too much clout and they don't even check for me. Like, made it, like. My video went viral how many years ago. And even now, when people repost it, they see the repost and they don't for me. So that can't be my profile picture. Like, I'm over it. I'm not over it.

Speaker 1: 12:48

I love that upcycle. It is one of my most notorious upcycles and I get stopped on the street with people saying oh my god, are you the girl that upcycled that Ikea outfit? My friend showed me that. I showed it to my mum, my nan, my this one, that one. Everyone loves it. It's a beautiful upcycle and I did the damn thing, um, but it is time to change. Everything needs to change and I have had that same profile picture maybe for about four years. So I'm absolutely excited for a change, I'm excited for a rebrand and I'm just excited for shit to make sense. So we just keep it moving. Peace out a town down west side is the best side.

Speaker 1: 13:25

Do Do I believe that? Meow, not really, but you know I do believe. What do I believe? I believe that wherever I'm at the vibe's there and the vibe is always where Danny D's at, it's always going to be there I'm always going to bring you the vibe. I'm always going to bring a vibe. I'm always going to be joy and whatever you do, make sure you spread that.

Speaker 1: 13:49

You have a choice of what you decide to spread. You can spread joy, you can spread bullshit, you can spread bad vibes, spread good vibes and if you don't have good vibes to spread, keep yourself to yourself and just shut your mouth and then, when you're feeling in a good space, to spread good, good vibes. Then you come back out and also know who you can talk to when you're in a space where you're not spread good vibes, then you come back out and also know who you can talk to. When you're in a space where you're not feeling good vibes, there are some people that you can speak to. Speak to those people. You don't need to speak to everyone, because everyone is only going to give you advice based on their perception of the world, and not everyone is going to give you the same advice. So know what advice you need or what advice you want, and go to that person that's going to give it love you guys bye.