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The Sew Flipping Extra Podcast
Welcome to the The Sew Flipping Extra Podcast
A platform for me to Express, Explore, Connect and over all be Sew Flipping Extra… why because that brings me joy.
I'd like to describe this podcast as a Self-Improvement podcast. I mostly hope to make you laugh but i'm not gonna lie, you might cry too, as well as think and grow through conversations with other experts in their field.
The Sew Flipping Extra Podcast
EP 59: Don’t Wait for Permission: Motivation for Creatives & Dreamers!
Welcome to another Episode of the Sew Flipping Extra Podcast!
A platform for me to express, explore, connect and over all be Sew Flipping Extra... why because that brings me joy.
Tune in to this joyous episode where we celebrate the audacious, share a chuckle, and embrace our quirks. I dive into a personal Q&A session inspired by my Instagram followers, revealing the passion fruit within me—complex, sweet, and a little tough on the outside. Get ready for a heartfelt pep talk to my younger self about self-validation and chasing dreams, setting the stage for some real talk on what makes us truly unique.
Prepare for a lighthearted rollercoaster as I spill the beans on my dating preferences and hidden talents, from a deep admiration for dark-skinned men with dreads or bald heads to a playful nod towards pineapple on pizza. I reminisce about my childhood creative endeavors, featuring my superhero alter-ego, Stiletto Woman, armed with high heels that pack a punch. And yes, I can make it clap—imagine that! This segment is packed with humor and candid reflections, inviting you to recognise and appreciate the peculiarities that make us all wonderfully distinct.
As the episode unfolds, I share my love for upcycling old denim into fashion-forward creations, a testament to personal style and self-expression. Join me in challenging societal norms and encouraging authenticity, especially when it comes to fashion choices and teaching the next generation to proudly embrace their individuality. The final touch of this episode is a heartfelt exploration of the power of consistency in personal growth. By showing up each week, I’ve nurtured a passion for speaking and cultivated a platform that reflects my journey. So, settle in and celebrate the joy of being unapologetically extra with me!
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Speaker 1:You've got to get in, you've got to get through the hard skin, and inside is a bit interesting, but I taste good. So we're back for another episode of the so Flippin' Extra podcast, podcast, podcast podcast. I have just one thing I've just I'm not going to call it an ick or or anything, because I am really getting used to the fact of let people do people things, let people people not everyone is like you. I have some things that are very icky, so it is what it is. But people who do not care about wearing shoes in the spa area, at the gym, like the spa, the sauna, steam room, pool, even the showers, you guys are a special breed. You're a special breed of people like this morning I was like good morning to everyone, apart from you lot that don't wear shoes because you're built different. You don't need any gratities, you don't need any good lucks or congratulations or anything, because you are made of strong stuff To walk around the spa area at the gym with not a care in the world and not a shoe on your foot, not a sandal, not a crock, not a Birkenstock, not a Havana. You guys are a special kind, must say, say it's mostly men that I see doing it tough as nails you lot are, and let's not get it twisted. There are probably times that we've all maybe forgotten our sandals when it's time when we had planned to have a shower at the gym or go to the spa, because I have, and I'm gonna tell you this, I look hella uncomfortable like I walk around on tiptoes, but some of you lot like it's like you get your foot and you just put it into the ground, spread your toes and everything, and it's like you're not scared. You, you're not scared of anything, you fear nothing. So special place for you guys.
Speaker 1:But anyway, we're back for another episode of the so flippin extra podcast and, oh, I done something fun today. I asked my followers on instagram to ask me some questions, so I've got a couple questions that I'm gonna read out. It's gonna be a get to know danny type of episode today. Uh, what you think you know, but you have no idea, and after this you'll still have no idea. But I'm going to read out it's going to be a get to know Danny type of episode today. You think you know but you have no idea. And after this you'll still have no idea, but you're going to think you know a bit more, and you will. So let's do our intro. Hi guys, welcome to another episode of the so Flippin' Extra podcast, a platform for me to express, explore and connect and be so flippin' extra. Hear you ask. Well, that's what brings me joy.
Speaker 1:So, without further ado, let's get into the episode and let's get into some questions. Oh my god, what do we got? What do we got? So, okay, I wanted to make sure that these questions were not too serious, because we don't take ourselves too seriously around here, darling, but you know just a few. So there's a mixture of questions about upcycling, questions about me and my business because some of you lot are nosy as fuck and just some random-ass questions.
Speaker 1:So first question that came through actually, if you was a fruit, what would you be? And give your younger self one bit of advice. Okay, so if I was a fruit, what fruit would I be? I think I'd be a passion fruit, because when I think of a passion fruit, the name is like oh my God, so passionate. So it's like wow. And then you really get into the passion fruit and you're like there's layers to you, you're not so simple, it's not so passion and, but it's still sweet. So, yeah, that's me. I'm, I'm passionate, you've got to get in. You've got to get in, you've got to get through the hard skin and inside is a bit interesting, but I taste good. That's it.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna be a passion fruit baby, and a bit of advice I'd give my younger self is this oh, a bit of advice. I've babes. I've got a whole lot of fucking advice for her, but one thing, one thing and I said this last week on the episode. This is the advice that I would have given to my younger self, and this is why I said it to the young girl that I was talking to do not wait for anyone to tell you that you are it. Do not wait for anyone to tell you that you're good enough uh, strong enough, tall enough, short enough, pretty enough, ready enough to do the thing that you're good enough, strong enough, tall enough, short enough, pretty enough, ready enough to do the thing that you want to do.
Speaker 1:Create your platform, create yourself, know exactly what it is that you need, want and have to do to get to where you want to do it, and go out and source the people, the things, whatever it is you need to source to get you closer to that thing, because the proof is in the pudding. There's a lot of things that we're doing, but we don't have the you know the certificate or the I don't know the alphabets before our names to prove to, to prove that we're able to do it. But there are also ways, just to you know, if you want to to be a doctor you can't just be out here being a doctor but for me personally, like to be a presenter. Yeah, there's different levels of presenter. There's the tv presenters, but then there's also just presenting, and there's things out there that I've had on my manifestation, in my manifestations, and things that I've wanted to achieve, and I'm doing them already. So, yeah, don't wait, don't wait, but whatever it is that you want to do and you know what you want to do do your research and figure out how to do it, and don't wait for someone to to get you there. Was that good? I think that was good.
Speaker 1:How do you overcome periods of creative drought, if any, if any? Wow, I get creative drought quite often and I would say creative drought more started coming, um, after lockdown. So when we went into lockdown is when I really started doing the upcycling. So it was something that I was just doing before. It was a hobby, it was in betweens like I would be like, oh, I'm gonna upcycle this thing here, I'm gonna do this here. But when we went into lockdown and I had so much time on my hand is when I really started doing the videos and the transitions and you know the content creating, and I loved it. It was fun. Every week there was like about three videos that I was putting out there and, and so I was amazing, absolutely amazing.
Speaker 1:But then what happened is, as we came out of lockdown, I got clients and customers and people wanted me to make stuff for them. So what was my? What I found really fun in the upcycling and being really creative and just like the world is my oyster and I can make something out of anything. And my brain was just in creative, in a creative mode of finding the unwearable wearables like that was. I used to call it that like things that you can't wear. But how can we wear it? Like? I'm gonna make it into an outfit and you know the bags and the shoes, whatever. Whatever else it was that I could find. I was just so into that.
Speaker 1:But obviously, when I started getting customers. It was oh, you sew, okay, can you hem up my jeans or can you? I've got this jacket that doesn't fit me. Well, can you take it in for me? Can you make my trousers, uh, shorter, fit better?
Speaker 1:All of that stuff which took me really out of my one, out of my comfort zone, because I'm not a trained tailor, but two out of my creativity, because it was just normal stuff that people wanted me to do, and and it was a battle with, like, my financial, with my pocket and my heart, because there's no creativity for me in in doing alterations. However, it pays the bill and that's what people wanted, that more than they wanted some creative thing that I had made. I've done pop-up shops and I've made no sales because the people that were coming to the pop-up shops were like minors leaking star every week. Yeah, I leak. Um, they would be like, oh yeah, we can't wear your star, for I could never wear this. It's too short, it's too revealing, it's too sexy. So, yeah, but I continued making that stuff because you know I'm that annoying dj that plays for themselves.
Speaker 1:Like I make stuff that I want to wear because there are people that want to wear it because, trust me, when I go out, I don't think I've ever been out in something that I've made and not got a couple of compliments, like I've never been out and not got a compliment on stuff that I make, compete. And then when I say to people I make it, they're like, oh my god, that is amazing. Wow, so clearly people want what I want what I make and I'm. I just can't not make stuff that I enjoy making, because, again, that's what gives me creative drought. I haven't even answered the question.
Speaker 1:So how do I overcome it? It's a hard one, because if you are working to make money, sometimes you have to do things that don't creatively fuel you and give you that dopamine hit. But it really is just about finding the time to do the things that are creative, do the things that really bring you joy and, yeah, taking the time out. So even if it's like once that if your business is five days a week, you're all doing alterations and it doesn't bring you joy, then you have to say, okay, one of those days I'm going to be doing content, creating, making something, doing this, doing this, like you have to. You have to. You have to find the time for yourself. That is just what it is and, yeah, that's how. That's the only really way I can answer that. It's just finding the time to do what it is that you love, that you really, really love.
Speaker 1:Not a question related to anyone's business, jakes. But what? What's your type when it comes to a man? Okay, so, I don't have a type, lies. I tell. I don't understand it when people say they don't have a type. I'm like you must have a type, but I do have a type. I have a type of person that, when that I'm like, ooh, but that doesn't mean that I only date my type. So, um, yeah, like I very much stated, not my type, but I just, yeah, there are there are some things that, um, stop it. There are some types that make my heart flower a little bit. So, okay, cool, and by by type I feel like you mean um, looks wise over personality and the reason why I don't really want to say what my personality traits, types, are, because people will take that and then they will like, be like I'm going to become this person so that I can make you fall for me.
Speaker 1:I had a stint on dating apps and people be like what's your type, what do you like in a man? And I was just like I want you to be yourself, that's it. I just want you to be yourself, because if you're a dickhead, you're a dickhead in it. Let me be the judge of that. But if I'm like, oh well, I like someone who likes walks in the park and likes pistachio ice cream, next minute we're going for a walk in the park eating pistachio ice cream and I'm like, oh my god, I love him. He likes the same things I love. But you don't love that. You just did it. So, yeah, I'm gonna go on. Looks wise.
Speaker 1:So, okay, I I've loved dark skin men. I absolutely love dark skin men. They just remind me of like chocolate, like a, like a oh, my mouth's watering like a malteser chocolate. Um, that's, that's, that's kind of first and foremost. Oh, every light skin guy's like hang on a second, I never knew that. No, you do. Uh, I like, I like okay. So I do like bald men with beards, but I also do like dreads with beards. But I also do like dreads. Dreads are a little bit sexy if they're well kept. Caveat, I'm not doing your hair for you if you have dreads, not retwisting your hair. I just find it so boring, but I do. I do have a soft spot for dreads.
Speaker 1:Um, I do like tall guys. I do like to feel like I'm being swallowed I don't know if that's the right word, but yeah, I do. I think and I think my the reason why I really really prefer taller guys is because I was always the tallest and so, like, when I'd be around my friends, I was always the tallest and it just made me feel like the guy, like whenever we would be like I don't know if all girls do this, but it'd be like you'll be the guy, you'll be the girl, and I was always the guy because I was tall. I don't want to be the guy, I just don't want to be the guy. So, yeah, I like tall guys. I also like, um, so build wise. I like tall guys. I also like, oh, so build wise. I like like an athletic build.
Speaker 1:But I do have a soft spot for chubbies. So, yeah, when I was younger, I, yeah, I really used to like chubby guys and, again, I just think it was just having that person that was just bigger than me and kind of I don't even know how to explain it but just made me feel like I was, I was secure. I just, yeah, bigger people that are bigger than me kind of make me feel like I'm protected. So, yeah, and I think again that was my reason for just liking taller and chubby guys by chubby, not fat, fat, but just a bit of a chunky. Do you know what I'm saying? What else? What else features do I like? Your feet have got to be bigger than mine. Oh man, I've been out of a guy and his feet were maybe not smaller, but like the same size as mine. I felt I just felt like a mampy. I felt big, fat and heavy, like that is a song. All my adh adhd-ers would have been singing that just then. But yeah, um, yeah, I don't, you can't have smaller feet than me, sorry, uh, anything else, I can't have smaller feet than me, sorry, anything else? I can't think of anything else. So that's all for now. If I think of any more, I'll let you know.
Speaker 1:This is fun, isn't it guys? Oh my God, you should ask me more questions more often, okay. So be honest, do you eat pineapple on pizzas, or nah? Okay, I don't understand what the big deal of people with pineapple on pizzas is like. I think pineapple on pizzas is perfectly fine. I don't eat ham on pizza. When I buy, I don't eat ham. I don't order ham pizza, um. But if there was a ham and pineapple pizza, I'd eat ham and pineapple pizza and I do really like pineapple on pizza. I do like pineapple pineapple on pizza, of course. Yes, stop being an idiot. It works, it's fine.
Speaker 1:What's your secret talent that no one knows about, besides being fabulous? Well, besides being fabulous, what else is there to be good at my hidden tongue? Okay, I can roll my tongue. Okay, can you see that? I learned that by there was a song. Was it uchi wali, wali, uchi bang bang, and it's like do that little thing with your tongue. Or was it a Jay-z song where she does the thing with her tongue anyway? So I saw that in a music video and I was like I wonder if I can do that. And I can. So I guess that's a hidden talent.
Speaker 1:I can do a headstand. I don't know if it'd be good to try it now. It's gonna look really like I can do headstand. No, this is too hard. Okay, I will show. I will maybe insert a clip of me doing a headstand. I can do that.
Speaker 1:What else is a secret talent. Okay, I can make it clap, and that was an accident. I found that out accidentally because I was like jumping and I was like I never knew I could make it clap before that moment. So, yeah, I can make it clap. That is a secret talent, if you know. You know, okay, okay, cool, keep it moving, because my secret talents be secret talent in right, if you were a superhero, what would your ridiculous but useful power be?
Speaker 1:Okay, so here's something that no one knows not probably many people is that I used to draw a lot when I was younger and I would just draw characters and I create this character and she was a superhero. I don't remember what her name was, but she stiletto woman. She was actually called stiletto woman and she obviously would have these high, high heels and they were stilettos, and one of the tricks that she could do was that she would just kind of like lift up her foot and aim it at you know, the bad person because she was a good person, and then she, her boot was like a gun. So as she lifted up her foot, it would go pew, pew, pew and like the bullets would come out of the stilettos. So she would go like and pew pew, pew kind of thing. She would go like and pew, pew, pew kind of thing and, um, yeah, I don't know what her power was, but I feel like if I was a superhero, I would definitely be able to, um, just like, is it time travel? I don't know if it's time no, because I want to go to a different time, but, like, if I say I want to be over there, like, or someone's coming to me, I can go and disappear and then be over there, and they're like, oh oh, where's she gone? And like, have to come and find me. Uh, but yeah, so that's my super powers.
Speaker 1:If you could only upcycle one item for the rest of your life, what would it be? This is not a secret to anyone, but it would be denim, and I just think denim is really useful and durable and there's so much that you can do with it and there's so many ways you can manipulate it and there are so many different weights of denim so like heavy, thick denim to light, thin denim that it can create so many different things and, yeah, different colorways that make denim look so different. So, like you know, if you have a pair of jeans, the inside of the denim compared to the outside of the denim is two different pairs of denim, so it looks so interesting. There's an outfit that I made a couple of, maybe a month ago now yeah, it would have been over a month, over a month ago and it was a pair of jeans that I turned into a skirt and a top. But the way I made it it was one pair of jeans but the turned into a skirt and a top, but the way I made it it was one pair of jeans, but the skirt looks like it's got two different fabrics because the inside is such a contrast to the outside of the fabric, the outside of the jeans. So, yeah, it was a two-toned piece that I was able to make from this one pair of jeans. Okay, this one's quite funny.
Speaker 1:Be honest, do you ever look at someone's outfit and think that needs my help? Okay, so one thing I think everybody in this world does, no matter how great you are and how much of a good person you are is that you judge. We all judge. There is just differences in the way we judge and what we say when we judge, and and also when you judge and share. So like if I, if I judge someone and I'm like, oh my god, look at that person. But in my head I can judge, but not everything needs to be verbalized. You know I'm saying so like I definitely look at people and be like, oh my god, look at her. She ought to be ashamed of herself coming out looking like that hey, girl, that's from friday. But yeah, genuinely I will look at someone and be like, what the fuck are they wearing? But at the same time I also will.
Speaker 1:Then the second half of my mind goes go you, because who gives a shit? Wear what you want. No one cares. And it's the same thing. I know that happens to me. I know there are definitely things that I will wear or put on and people be like she should not have wore that. Is she not embarrassed to wear that? That is too small, that is too short, that is too skimpy. She's a mum.
Speaker 1:But at the same time, again, we're all free to do what we want. We can, we genuinely can do what we want. We don't have to care what people think. So, as much as I think something might need my help, unless someone asks for my help or my advice, I'm not going to say nothing. Someone can sit down and have a conversation with me about something. And my first thing is do you want my advice? Because if you don't want my advice, I'm not. I'm not saying shit to you, babes you can do what you want. I don't care. I genuinely don't care. But if you want my advice, I'll give you my advice based on my perception, because that's all it is.
Speaker 1:Everything is perception. What we think of what someone's wearing, or how they're wearing it, or how shit they look or how good they look. It's based on our perception. We walk into another room, it's amazing. Walk into another room is shit. Get around that conversation. It's the best thing in the world. It's all perception. So I don't really care. But I have a. I have a, an opinion. I don't really care. Yeah, how you have people online that are just you know, really quick to give their opinions, um, on the way people look and the way they're dressed and everything. Guys, if I really cared, I would not show up on my podcast looking like I'm not and I don't think I look bad, if I'm being honest but I would have made much more of an effort. I would be putting on a great outfit every week, like ideally in my head when I was going to do a podcast, it was what outfits am I going to wear every week? I this, this is just my gym outfit like obviously into my jacket, because my studio is fucking cold, and then jumper, and then another jumper underneath where, yeah, and then my gym trousers, which you look can't see it. But yeah, I put a little bit of makeup on because I was like, don't take the piss, don't take the piss, piss, because I gotta edit that shit. But yeah, like, do what you want. We all have an opinion, but everything is perception.
Speaker 1:Who or what inspires your extra personality the most? Who or what inspires your extra personality the most? Who or what inspires your extra personality the most? That's a hard one, you know that's a hard one. But I must say, big reason why I just continue being extra and you know, speaking about it loudly is that I want my kids to know that they can be and do, be and do whatever it is that they want, and they can be as loud as they want and they can be as extra as they want. And you know there's a time and a place for everything. But at the end of the day, if you're, if just be your personality, whatever your personality is.
Speaker 1:Lean into that because a lot of the time kids, their authentic self, is ripped from them quite early. Ripped sounds very harsh, but I'm gonna keep it in there. It's ripped from them very early because we're so dictated on how we can act and what we can do and you know, if you're a little girl and oh, um, someone can see up your skirt, stop climbing that tree like you can't even play, let a kid be a kid and then, oh, stop being so loud. Why are you can't even play, let a kid be a kid and then, oh, stop being so loud. Why are you chewing with your mouth open? Why are you yapping so loud? All of these things that really just dictate and change our mechanism, a mechanism and all structure of the person that we maybe possibly would have been.
Speaker 1:If your child sings and they're singing all the time, or they're always talking, they're always repeating words that they hear on tv and something it's like, oh shush, but that kids could be destined to be the next whitney houston, they could be destined to be the next denzel washington, and you know, they just learn words really quickly, but now they, as they get older, that confidence is is is literally torn away because they were told, they were dictated so much like stop singing, stop talking, stop jumping up and down, stop acting like when Caden was younger and he was just like, jumping all over the place, like. Caden had a good few names, one of them was Bam Bam Tasmanian, because he was like all over the house and sometimes I'd be like okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. But most of the and that was like I said, there's a time and place but the most of the time I just let the kid do his thing. I, just I, as much as I could, I would just let him do his thing until he tired himself out. He had the most energy. And look at him, now he's jumping all over the place playing basketball and that's that could be what he was destined to do. Even when he was doing track, he was the fastest. He was always just the fastest. That was his destiny was to be a fast runner. His destiny was to be a sportsman. That's what I believe. Only time will tell, but that's why I'm inspired. That's what inspires me. So I guess my younger self is what inspires me to be. My most extra younger self is what inspires me to be my most extra, so that it can then inspire other young people, especially my children, but hopefully other people and I and I do know that my extra does it in inspires not only young people, but also older people as well that are really like you, inspire me to do x, y and z and be x, y and z, and I love that. I think it's amazing. So, yeah, I'm proud of us, all of us.
Speaker 1:You, you, you do you name? Do you name your creations? Or am I the only one that gives personality to clothes? I don't. I have. Back in the day, um, when I used to make dolls, I used to name the dolls. That makes sense, though, but with my no, I don't really name them. I don't name them. I think my brain is just. I don't have time to think. But what's your go-to karaoke song after a few drinks? After a few drinks? Don't worry about that.
Speaker 1:My go-to karaoke song, in any situation, whether it's pre-drinks-drinks, past drinks, is definitely a Whitney Houston song. There's a few, actually there's a few, okay, whitney Houston, um, I Want To Dance With Somebody is top of the list, but also Tiffany, I think we're alone now. Alone now. There doesn't seem to be anyone around. Oh my god, I think we're alone now, alone now. The beating of our hearts is the only sound. Oh my god, it's just. It's so 80s. Me and my sister used to do that dance. All the time we're on the record player because we have the record. My mum still has the record now. Oh, my god must get that out. Tiffany, tiffany and Whitney Houston I don't know which one's more. It might be Tiffany, you know, because I can really perform Tiffany. I can really perform Tiffany.
Speaker 1:That's all the questions that I'm going to go through today. Yeah, that's it. That's it. That's it for today's, this week's show. So peace out A-town down West side is the best side. Do I believe that? Not really. But what I do know is, wherever I'm at the vibe's, that the vibe's always where Danny D is. Danny D, danny Dizzle for shizzle my nizzle. The vibe is always here. Every week the vibe is here. Tell a friend to tell a friend, we ain't going nowhere. We're staying. We're staying consistent.
Speaker 1:Consistency is key. Consistency will keep you growing. Consistency will keep you going. Consistency will keep you loving what it is that you do. And if you find something that you can be consistent in, that is a sure sign that you are on the right track to your passions and and the things that you love.
Speaker 1:And I must say me coming every single week and speaking is the one thing I've been consistent about in over a year. There are no days off when it comes to my passion of speaking to you guys and having my microphone and having creating my platform and and showing up. And is it easy? Of course it's not easy. There are some weeks when I'm like, but when it's done, it's done and it feels absolutely amazing and I feel greater for it, for myself, because I've just done something. I'm continuously and continuing to do something that I love and I'm really grateful for that and I'm grateful for you guys that just come back every week and enjoy it and listen and, yeah, just keep riding with me. So, yeah, it's what it is, okay anyway. Bye, guys, I love you.